(Closed) Out of curiosity … Why are you interested in Etiquette?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
7295 posts
Busy Beekeeper

i never had a reason to be interested before wedding planning. like i never hosted fancy parties or attended upper class social events. so all these etiquette rules i have learned through my wedding planning was completely new to me!

but i have an interest now simply because of my wedding!  i want my wedding to be perfect and if following these rules leaves people with a good impression, then I will do it.

please don’t take this to mean that i was a rude and inconsiderate person before. i just never followed a formal etiquette system because i didn’t know about it. i can tell you that i always try to make my guests comfortable when i have them in my home by having food and drinks, when i am invited to someone’s home i never show up empty handed. etc.   things like that are more common sense and basic social skills to me than etiquette.

Post # 4
858 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I like to read etiquette because I am the girl amongst my friends whose problems never matter until my friends actually have a problem. So I guess I like to know what basic etiquette dictates so when they come crying to me, I can give them a reasonable answer. LOL, yes, I know, my friends sound iffy, but thats not the point of this thread. 🙂

Post # 5
987 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

@aspasia475:  I have an interest in it because I hate bad etiquette!  It erks me to extreme. 


Post # 7
3316 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I’m interested in etiquette because to my mind, etiquette means making your guests comfortable.  Does that mean I will be horribly offended if someone uses the wrong fork?  No.  In the first place, it would be rude to point out a guest’s shortcomings in any event.  And second, my duty as host if I noticed such a thing would be just to make sure that if s/he was going to need that fork later, s/he got another one of that size/type.

Post # 8
803 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

i adore proper etiquette.  i was raised with it as well – you dress for dinner, you use proper english, no slang and very little contractions, how to eat at a formal dinner without looking like an idiot. my mom taught the daughters (three of us) how to wear formal dresses, walk in heels, dance, write hand written notes, respond to party invitations with a note (rather than on facebook)how to dress for brunch, always knowing what to wear for every event, etc.  we took music lessons, dance, and at least two languages (i speak french and poor spanish).  we also were very focused on education as well as all the girly stuff. 

 I love the flourish of it and will raise our kids with the same values and formality.  we also had a great balance of formality and personal time – some families who are very formal are also very impersonal, and my family was not like that at all.  it was the perfect balance. 

Post # 9
424 posts
Helper bee

I agree! and just posted about this before seeing yours. I dont care about all that at all! People coming to our wedding know we care about them, so if i have someone saying ‘oh no! no cutting the cake?’ or something, thats their problem.

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