(Closed) Out of curiosity..Dress question

posted 7 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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1077 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@bells:  This is why I would never ask!  I didn’t even bring anyone with me to shop.  I haven’t shown anyone that I know any pics of my dress.  I know that on the day of, everyone will be kind and I won’t have anyone’s reservations about the dress that I love the most floating around in my head.

Post # 4
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3142 posts
Sugar bee

I did a thread yesterday about a dress colour pairing (not  wedding dress, a formal) and 1 out of 3 people selected that the dress made them want to puke.  And many wrote to tell me how ugly and unflattering they think the dress is (based on a photo if it on some celeb).

I only wanted advice on the colour, and thought that the dress was perfect otherwise, but after being told it made the wearer short and dumpy, I first questioned my dress selection, but after a fleeting moment of doubt, I thought that these are people, on the net, who don’t know you, your body type and are only judging you on a photo or two. (and in my case a photo of the dress on someone else!)

If  you post something up here, I would take everyones opinions with a grain of salt.

Post # 5
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7296 posts
Busy Beekeeper

me too i would never ask.  i only posted threads to compare when i hadn’t bought the dress yet.  then i posted my dress when i bought to show off and titled it as such.  no one says anything bad then!  in fact, i personally would never tell someone i dont like their dress once they have bought it.  if i don’t like it, i won’t comment.  if i do like it, i comment sincerely.  

Post # 7
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225 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Well, some people need several opinions to feel sure about their choices (some of my friends are like that too). Personally, I never ask. I already had my second thought phase and I don’t want to start again :s What’s done is done.

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Honestly I would welcome the feed back.  For example I didn’t do that on here but I had sent my mom pictures she took of me in my 3 dresses I had liked to help me chose the one that was going to purchase. At first I really liked a different one.  My mom liked another one and had asked me if I had put the pictures side by side to see which dress looked better and you know what after I did that I changed my mind she was right. The one dress did look better and I am so glad I went with that one.

Post # 9
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1309 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

On those types of threads/polls I almost always answer that the original dress is best for that exact reason. I don’t want to make some bride second guess her choice when it almost always looks amazing on her.

I think I’ve maybe once answered that she should keep looking, just because the dress was truly horrendous.

Post # 10
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1077 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@angela85: I bought a second dress and sold the first and am so, so glad that I did.  I guess some folks might be looking for a thumbs up on that too.

Post # 11
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3788 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think you can usually tell if she is just looking for reassurance on her purchase or if she already has serious doubts. I vote accordingly unless one dress screams so loudly that it is better that I just can’t ignore it.

Post # 12
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811 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I put up a post to inquire if other brides wore my dress. Its a sample that was in production from 2007-2010. I was looking for pics/ideas from other brides… what I got was…

“its beautiful, but to pull this dress off I think one needs to be tall and slim.. I dont think it can look good on anyone else”

Which I found a little harsh. I’m 5.7 so tall enough, but I’m a very curvy hourglass gal who would never be described as “tall and slim”…I got me some big boobies and a big bubble bum. ugg.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think that if I was to post something like that I’d be looking for honest opinions. If you aren’t sure then you want to know what other people think. I see the danger of doing this but I just figure that the OP must want to know the truth if they posted it. I’m sure that’s a little optimistic for some cases but that’s just what I do 🙂

Post # 14
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1314 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

@dynamic_duo: same here! If I see a dress I don’t like, i’ll just move on to another thread. No reason to rain on another bride’s parade!

 

I’m only going to ask for advice in choosing a dress if I’m literally half/half torn between two and cannot choose. If I am leaning towards a dress…I’ll buy that one.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

The only time I have ever asked for opinions regarding two different dresses was when I hadn’t bought either yet.  I can’t imagine buying one and then asking.

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