Post # 1
I hope no one gets offended but there are some threads that make me nervous for the OPs and I wanted to ask about them. For the bees that buy a dress and then show us a pic of the dress they bought compared to a dress they nearly bought asking us which we prefer.. What if everyone said they preferred the runner up? Would you consider going back for the runner up? Or would you begin to doubt your dress choice? I only ask because I usually feel bad for the OP when I see bees voting for the “other” dress because I feel this is going to cause more doubt. IMO if you loved the dress enough to buy, just close that case and dont compare to the other dresses anymore.
Post # 3
@bells: This is why I would never ask! I didn’t even bring anyone with me to shop. I haven’t shown anyone that I know any pics of my dress. I know that on the day of, everyone will be kind and I won’t have anyone’s reservations about the dress that I love the most floating around in my head.
Post # 4
I did a thread yesterday about a dress colour pairing (not wedding dress, a formal) and 1 out of 3 people selected that the dress made them want to puke. And many wrote to tell me how ugly and unflattering they think the dress is (based on a photo if it on some celeb).
I only wanted advice on the colour, and thought that the dress was perfect otherwise, but after being told it made the wearer short and dumpy, I first questioned my dress selection, but after a fleeting moment of doubt, I thought that these are people, on the net, who don’t know you, your body type and are only judging you on a photo or two. (and in my case a photo of the dress on someone else!)
If you post something up here, I would take everyones opinions with a grain of salt.
Post # 5
me too i would never ask. i only posted threads to compare when i hadn’t bought the dress yet. then i posted my dress when i bought to show off and titled it as such. no one says anything bad then! in fact, i personally would never tell someone i dont like their dress once they have bought it. if i don’t like it, i won’t comment. if i do like it, i comment sincerely.
Post # 6
I just find it so nerve wracking especially when they’ve already paid for it! Personally I would only ask opinions about things I havent bought yet,
@Oneeleven: I think your totally right. because sometimes its hard to tell from the pictures, some pics are just a better angle than others.
Post # 7
Well, some people need several opinions to feel sure about their choices (some of my friends are like that too). Personally, I never ask. I already had my second thought phase and I don’t want to start again :s What’s done is done.
Post # 8
Honestly I would welcome the feed back. For example I didn’t do that on here but I had sent my mom pictures she took of me in my 3 dresses I had liked to help me chose the one that was going to purchase. At first I really liked a different one. My mom liked another one and had asked me if I had put the pictures side by side to see which dress looked better and you know what after I did that I changed my mind she was right. The one dress did look better and I am so glad I went with that one.
Post # 9
On those types of threads/polls I almost always answer that the original dress is best for that exact reason. I don’t want to make some bride second guess her choice when it almost always looks amazing on her.
I think I’ve maybe once answered that she should keep looking, just because the dress was truly horrendous.
Post # 10
@angela85: I bought a second dress and sold the first and am so, so glad that I did. I guess some folks might be looking for a thumbs up on that too.
Post # 11
I think you can usually tell if she is just looking for reassurance on her purchase or if she already has serious doubts. I vote accordingly unless one dress screams so loudly that it is better that I just can’t ignore it.
Post # 12
I put up a post to inquire if other brides wore my dress. Its a sample that was in production from 2007-2010. I was looking for pics/ideas from other brides… what I got was…
“its beautiful, but to pull this dress off I think one needs to be tall and slim.. I dont think it can look good on anyone else”
Which I found a little harsh. I’m 5.7 so tall enough, but I’m a very curvy hourglass gal who would never be described as “tall and slim”…I got me some big boobies and a big bubble bum. ugg.
Post # 13
I think that if I was to post something like that I’d be looking for honest opinions. If you aren’t sure then you want to know what other people think. I see the danger of doing this but I just figure that the OP must want to know the truth if they posted it. I’m sure that’s a little optimistic for some cases but that’s just what I do 🙂
Post # 14
@dynamic_duo: same here! If I see a dress I don’t like, i’ll just move on to another thread. No reason to rain on another bride’s parade!
I’m only going to ask for advice in choosing a dress if I’m literally half/half torn between two and cannot choose. If I am leaning towards a dress…I’ll buy that one.
Post # 15
The only time I have ever asked for opinions regarding two different dresses was when I hadn’t bought either yet. I can’t imagine buying one and then asking.