- 4 years ago
Long time lurker, first time poster! While I am not engaged yet, my boyfriend and I have discussed it, and he has bought a ring, so I know it’s coming soon! Not only that, we’re saving up to buy a house too, so a lot of exciting things in our future!
One of the concerns we have had regarding all the potential planning is handling our out of state family and friends. We currently live in NC and 99% of our family and friends are spread out between NY, MA, and ME.
We’re trying to figure out the best way to navigate a wedding, reception and a house warming party. Trying to invite everyone down to all these events seemed a little extraordinary. We’ve talked eloping and just hosting a reception/housewarming party, but we’ve heard mixed reactions from our family members. We’re not religious, so our wedding ceremony wouldn’t be held by a priest or in a church. There is also the debate of whether to get married before buying a house or after.
How have others navigated the struggles of out of state families? We would like everyone there for these special occasions, but not at the expense of our wallet or theirs!