- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2012
I was born and raised in WI until 2011 when me and the hubby moved to TX to be closer to his family. In WI I planned a wedding, but canceled it due to $ issues, and comparing my wedding to my cousins who spent $7,000. With a champagne toast, hotel ballroom etc. I was looking at a small chapel, 60 people, and potluck. I felt so lame. My other cousin is now having a $10,000 wedding. When I annouced I eloped, I didn’t get one congrats from family. My dad said it was b/c they didn’t care b/c it wasn’t a “real wedding”. When I went back to visit my family in WI two aunts gave me wedding cards/money out of 40 family members.
We ended up eloping b/c I didn’t want to invite just his side and not have mine there and we didn’t want to marry in WI and have my family there but not his. So we decided eloping was best. It was a very simple ceremony. We both wore already owned clothes, and spent a night at a hotel. I didn’t have a photographer or my hair and makeup done either. The officant was nice enough to record the ceremony and took a few photos with my point and shoot camera.
I want the big white dress, my two sisters as flower girls, my older sister standing up, pictures with my dad/mom. I figured out the costs and it would be $2500 for my dad,sisters, and gma. Right now he’s going through a terrible divorce and lacks funds. I can’t afford to pay for their trip either. My other sister who’s 24 is unemployed. My gma is 71 and not positive if she can even travel/fly due to swelling/dibaeties/health. My mother I haven’t been talking to much due to the divorce.
I also planned how much it would cost if we did a renewal for my husband’s family and then went to WI for a renewal for my family, but it would cost close to $2,000 to get there and then $2,000 for the renewal just in WI. So it’d be cheaper for them to come down here. (My budget is $2,000) Simple beach renewal and going somwhere to eat. But I get the dress, family, and professional pictures.
I also thought of inviting everyone out of state, knowing 95% of them won’t be able to come, but should I still send out invites? On my dad’s family they’re attending my cosin’s wedding Oct 2014, and was planning a renwal on May 2014. Too close together? Thoughts?
Also, my husband’s family is about 10 people. His mom and dad never got married. His dad married someone else (been together 30 years), his mother is still in love with his dad, and never moved on. So it’s ackward between the 3 of them. So that just leaves his two uncles, an aunt, and her 6 y/o daughter.