(Closed) Out of state family and vow renewal questions (long…sorry)

posted 5 years ago in Vow Renewals
  • poll: Vow renewal w/ out of state guests
    Invite in-laws and immediate out of state family(push date back 2 pay for their accommodations) : (0 votes)
    Invite in-laws and skype with out of state family : (0 votes)
    Invite everyone even though 98% of guests won't make it : (1 votes)
    20 %
    Vow renewal just us two (still get white dress/prof. photographer) : (4 votes)
    80 %
  • Post # 3
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    682 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I think that a private vow renewal would be best under your circumstances, especially with all the awkwardness and cost of accomodations.

    Post # 4
    Member
    55 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I’m not sure creating a financial burden would be worth having the vow renewal… I do believe that you deserve the wedding experience, every bride should if it’s what they like! 😀  (I’m a fan of the beautiful photos and the wedding glow!)  Undesirable stresses may come up, like feeling bad about spending money… Possibly, if you wait a bit longer for your vow renewal, you may surprise yourself and be able to save and pay for your own dress, or the venue and think of the satisfaction of that!

    If you tell your family ahead of time of your plan, it may be fun to save money together to have the celebration you and your family deserve! Good luck!

    (Dave Ramsey has GREAT tips on succeeding financially! Not that you aren’t right now, but weddings are spendy, so it may be helpful!)

    Post # 5
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    11 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I think personally i would leave out everyone that would make your renewal arkward for you and your husband. You dont want to spend this day looking at all your guests and hoping they are enjoying themselves and not critising everything you have.

    Your closest family and friends who you know will support you in everything you do are the people you should invite.

    I know how you feel, we got married december last year and i had alot of people judging what we were having because i made alot of the decorations, accessories and things like that. We had a family member take the photos (although not very well, most of the photos were either of his family or really bad ones). 2 of my bridesmaids just didnt want to be there and infact went home half way through to get changed out of their dresses. I got called a fat bride, heffer in a tent… all these nasty things that make you feel like crap basically. and to top it all off our wedding rings had a default in the metal and coroded away. We are renewing our vows at the 5 year mark to get everything we want, drop all the dead weight and make our day about US and not the guests. We are having things that make us happy because we didnt have that the first time round.

    If you want the white dress and the cake and everything else that it totally down to you and if you have people that think that your first wedding wasnt a real wedding then they dont deserve to be there with you to celebrate renewing your vows to the person you are spending the rest of your life with

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