(Closed) Out of State Wedding Advice

posted 5 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
547 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

While you have a ton of time, it really depends on how often you are planning to make the trip. And, from what I’ve read, it’s better to get things done early. We planned a few weekends to visit the place we’ll be getting married, and we pack our weekends with wedding planning things. So I did things kind of in spurts. 


If I were you, I’d meet with a few photographers while I was there. It’s nice to meet with them in person, so you get a feel for their personality. You want to make sure it’s someone you genuinely like spending time with because you’ll be together all day! I’d say the next big things on the list should be DJ/band, flowers and transportation. Flowers I did in person because I wanted to see their displays and everything, but I wouldn’t say it’s absolutely necessary. We also met with the DJ in person because I wanted to get a feel for his personality–I don’t want any over the top Jersey Shore types DJ’ing my wedding. 😉 I did not do transportation in person, although some people like to check out the cars in person. 




Post # 4
3092 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We’re planning out of state also.  When we went for a visit we stayed at the inn (also our venue) to see how we liked the service and the accomodations for our guests.

Post # 5
916 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Toeternityandbeyond:  I did this and it was so difficult. I felt like I needed to have the wedding in me and my husband’s home state. And we didn’t use a wedding planner and had to make a few trips back and forth to meet vendors and check out venues. I wish I had asked more help from family in planning and organizing things.

Post # 6
514 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Toeternityandbeyond:  When we visited our Destination Wedding site, we tried food, tried cake, picked out flowers, you might also want to look into a Rehearsal Dinner while you are there if that is something you are interested in, because we forgot and now can’t try the food or see the site until we are down there. Also, we scoped out the area for things to put on our website, food and activity ideas. And we looked for things to put in our welcome bags.

Post # 7
1130 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I live in DC too and the wedding is next month in CA. I agree, a lot depends on how often you think you’re going to visit and get everything done EARLY. It’s really hard to do, and I couldn’t have done it without some major help from my parents.

Send everything you need to buy for the wedding to the wedding site, otherwise you have to take it with you in your bags when you travel. Make sure your vendors know you’re out of state. Many will tell you “don’t worry you have plenty of time” but really you don’t. If they know way ahead of time when you’ll be in town, they can plan accordingly to set up tastings, etc. Choose colors you don’t have to match with other things. Like, our colors are black and white. I don’t have to worry about getting the right shade of anything.

The internet is your friend! Research EVERYTHING ahead of time and communicate via email so that you have everything handy in one place. It’s easy to lose track when you don’t have everything in easy travel distance.

Other questions, PM me!

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