Post # 1
I am super excited for my bachelorette party. Many of my friends live out of town and some do not know each other. I was really looking forward to a destination bachelorette party with a bunch of my friends, sitting by the beach, drinking, partying, eating, etc as I have not had a girls getaway in a while. I know that might be asking for too much, but some people seemed on board with it. I am having a bit of a bridezilla moment or at least feeling a bit disappointed. Some very good friends who have gone to other people’s bachelorette parties in much more expensive locations are declining even though they are also taking some other trips solo. I just feel a tad bit hurt by it even thoug I know it is not all about me. Two of my other friends are also pregnant and still seem game which is awesome. And I am obviously very happy for them. However, I worry that know it will not be any dancing or partying (which is what I really wanted for a big hurrah!) . Some other friends are more likely to complain about everything and then also drive the boat that way so now I think others who were planning on going are deciding not to. Is there any way I can salvage this? My best friend is working hard and telling me not to worry. She is not the most organized, but is awesome and cares alot about me. Is there a way I can salavage this? I know I am being a little bridezilla, but can’t help but feeling a bit disappointed.
Post # 3
aww it is natural to feel a little hurt when you feel like your efforts aren’t being reciprocated or that people aren’t as enthusiastic as you had hoped. it’s okay, stop all that bridezilla talk – it will only make things feel worse!
how to salvage the situation? go and have fun! if people aren’t going to celebrate for you, get out there and celebrate yourself! 😉 i know this may seem a little silly/forrest gumpish but you never know what life is going to give you – most of the time it’s not at all what you had expected but don’t fret! it can be even better in ways you didn’t expect! 🙂
Post # 4
Most girls would feel a little bummed about the situation so thats understandable but destination bach parties can be a lot to ask. Time, money, ect. Just go with who is on board for it and make the best. Not sure where your from but a 3 night cruise could be a good option for your pregnant friends because it can be as fun/crazy or relaxing as you want.
Post # 5
Thanks for the feedback and for the reassurance that I am not crazy. I’ve just been bummed since I had put in effort for other people’s bachelorette parties with organizing and have traveled far and wide to attend even when I was in grad school and my finances were very limited. Now that my friends are older with more stability, I thought that this would be more feasible, but it actually turns out the opposite. Just wanted my turn to party. 🙂 I normally dislike cruises, but this could be a good option. Also, is it rude if people in the group end up doing different things, i.e. going dancing or having a more low key night in?
Post # 6
So got the update…bachelorette party is not happening. Trying not to be disappointed, but feeling bummed. The people who can afford it don’t think they can take a day off work. And for others, they think it is too expensive. I know it is alot to ask, but just feeling bummed since some of these same friends who I have lived with, heard all of their breakup stories in the middle of the night, etc have gone to other people’s destination birthday parties in the past year, bachelorette parties in much farther destinations, or gone abroad to visit friends for just a visit (even when I was living abroad too, noone thought to visit because it was too expensive yet they could visit one of my friends at double the price). Maybe it is just the realization that I am more there for some people. The pregnant friend is being a trooper and offering to make the best of it whether it be designated driver or what. I can’t help just feel disappointed and a little angry. A couple of months ago, people seemed all for it and then when my two organziing friends asked them to committ, people have reasons why they cannot do it now. My fiance has even offered to help put money towards the expenses and of course, I would pay for my own flight and hotel. My fiance’s friends who are all very busy people are all flying to Vegas for his. Perhaps, my problem is that I don’t have bridesmaids because I didn’t want to deal with any friend drama. Besides the actual wedding, this was the part I was most looking forward to. More than a shower, more than picking out a dress (picked it out myself)..etc. I haven’t asked anyone to buy a dress or anything like that. My wedding is out of town from where I live (I live in a very very expensive Northeast city) and I know that people are having to pay for hotels for that, but still….now people are also seeing if they can crash with other friends that wedding night that live an hour or two away to save on a hotel or hang out with them to hit two birds with one stone. Come on you have gone to Bali and Italy for weddings. On top of that, for my bridal shower, many people in my own family are saying that driving two hours is too far away. Meanwhile, I have flown across the country for other people’s showers even when I was in grad school and money was really tight. I never complain and maybe that is part of the problem. Sorry for the vent. Just feeling bummed that I guess I am not that important.