- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2014
I’m trying to think through the logistics of my out of town bridal party members that are bringing plus ones….
Here is our schedule:
Thursday – out of town guests/bridal party members start arriving.
Thursday night – girls are having a lingerie shower, groomsmen are going on a overnight fishing trip at our lake house
Friday night – Rehearsal, rehearsal dinner
Sat morning – getting ready, pics start at 1:00, ceremony at 3:00, then a gap, reception from 6-10pm
Bridesmaids: 7, 2 are from out of town (flying in from other states). My mom has kindly rented a mountain house for the bridesmaids to stay in right near the wedding for a few nights before the wedding and the night of the wedding…gives the out of town bridesmaids a place to stay and feel “at home”, but no one is required to stay there, just if they want to..but we are offering free accomodations for bridesmaids if they would like to stay there. Most girls from around town who are bringing plus ones are spending the night at the mountain house, and just having their plus ones meet them at the ceremony location.
Groomsmen…Only 2. My brother and FI’s best friend. Idea was for them to do their fishing trip Thursday night, then all crash at FI’s house the night before the wedding, to get lots of “bro” time in…again, free accomodations if they want.
All bridal party members were well aware of this schedule before any invitations went out, most of the bridal party was involved in the making of the schedule…and then when invitations went out, we gave all bridal party members a plus one (this is common etiquette, right?)
So here is my question: I have one out of town bridesmaid who is bringing a guy as her plus one. That’s fine, i want everyone to feel comfortable. So what do we do with him during the lingerie shower thurday night, during the spend the night friday night, and the getting ready on saturday morning? Where is he supposed to stay? Is it up to them to get a hotel, meaning that the bridesmaid won’t be staying with the rest of the bridesmaids the night before? It’d be odd having one random guy we don’t know staying with the bridesmaids the night before the wedding…
Also, now FI’s best friend (also out of town, the one that planned the fishing trip) is talking about bringing a date (no one has ever met her). Which, again, is fine, but today I got to thinking…what is she supposed to do during the groosmen fishing trip, the night before the wedding where groomsmen were planning on staying at FI’s, and Sat morning during getting ready/pictures? I think it’d be odd for her to hang out with the groosmen during all of their activities…she’d probably feel awkward being asked as a plus one on a weekend wedding, and being left alone 2 of the 3 nights, but it’d be weird to have groosmen plus girl all staying together? Or does by him bringing her mean that he will get a hotel for the two of them?
Does bridesmaid’s plus one hang out with groomsmen? Kinda ruins their “intimate best friend time”….or does GM’s plus one hang out with the bridesmaids? also kinda ruins our intimate best friend time with someone that no one has ever met….
What’s the proper way to handle this? Or is it something I’m just not even supposed to worry about? I don’t want any plus ones to feel uncomfortable, so what do we do with them?? Are we supposed to provide separate accomodations for those bringing plus ones? Or is that not our job? When we talked to the bridal party before hand, it seemed like none of the out of town people were bringing plus ones, so we didn’t really think about it…but we included plus ones on all bridal party invites just to be polite.
Thanks for any advice.