Post # 1
My friend is from NY but moved to California 3 years ago. She is getting married next year in California but decided to fly home for her bridal shower because most of her family & friends are here – and her fiance’s family/friends are from CT.
Can anyone give me advice on what we should do about shower gifts? Her sister has informed the BMs that she does want to open gifts…but how do we handle her getting the gifts back to California?
Anyone have any creative ideas on how to handle this?
Post # 3
You could ask the guests to buy gifts from nation wide stores with a good return policy- maybe even from the same store. After the shower, you could help her return the gifts, purchase gift cards with the credit, then she can purchase those same gifts when she returns home to California.
Post # 4
I would have the gifts shipped to her house and put pics of what you got her in the card. I’ve seen this done at work showers.
Post # 5
@julies1949: Huh – very interesting idea! Thank you! Love it!
Post # 6
@julies1949: I had an Out of Town shower and I would not have wanted to do this. Who wants to go from store to store lugging around home goods to return them? I returned my stand mixer to Bed Bath and Beyond and they refused to give me a gift card so I had to keep a receipt worth $300 in my wallet until I got back home. I was so worried I was going to lose it and be screwed.
Post # 7
@LGenz: Love this idea too but what about older family or people who are computer illiterate and might have a tough time with this?
Post # 8
@angelesta: I don’t know, all the older people in my family are on facebook haha. Maybe an insert with the invitation? Word of mouth? I’m pretty sure everyone asked my mom what to do for my shower when they rsvp’d. I think you can have the gift shipped to the bride if you go to the store in person.
Post # 9
i was away on internship on the west coast during my wedding planning year and flew back east for my shower as well. what my friends did was pool together to get me one nice, but also packable gift – something i really wanted too! maybe ask your friend if she wants something like that. i got a fantastic camera that my Darling Husband and i would not normally have bought. and we got to bring it for our Destination Wedding in Jamaica, so it worked out great! a few friends also got us photo frames and picture albums, which were also easy to pack.
Post # 10
I had a shower across country. Actually 2.
On the invite my sister wrote
“The bride resides across country, for suggestions regarding gifts feel fee to call me” Or something to that effect.
That was enough for many people to buy something off the registry and have it mailed directly to me. They then gave me a card with a printout of what they bought at the shower. And some bought a small something related to what they bought so they had something to give.
Other people bought flat things I could bring home in a suitcase.
Others still bought regular old gifts and since I registered at Macy’s my mom and Mother-In-Law brought them to return them and have them “repurchased”. Since it was on my registry they shipped for free to my home address.
When you buy gifts at Macys they will allow you to go into the store and they will ship it. You dont have to buy it online for those who are not computer literate.
Oh also word of mouth. Let friends know that its better to ship directly.
Post # 11
One of my friends just bought a cheap, big suitcase after her shower and was able to fit most of her Out of Town shower items in it for the flight home. Anything that was too big or heavy her Mother-In-Law just shipped home for her. Maybe you and the BMs could just chip in to ship a box of items home for her?
I like the idea of an insert in the invitation suggesting that guests ship items home to the bride.