- 4 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013
I have four bridesmaids, one of which lives out of town. Up until the last month or so we talked pretty often, via text and FB chat. My wedding is 5 months away and yes I do recognize that and appreciate that there is still time for her (even though the other 3 have at least picked out their dresses, if not bought them already) to select and purchase a dress (p.s.-I am being very flexible with my bridesmaids. I gave them a fabric and a color and they could pick whatever they wanted beyond that that would flatter them and not break the bank). I have been sending her links to flower girl dresses for her daughter and she never gets back to me on what she thinks of them, not even a simply yes or no. I would attribute this lack of response to her working 2 jobs and spending the down time with her daughter, however this girl updates her FB constantly (a few times a day) and has no problem sending me messages about guys at work that she’s into. So when she tells me “things have just been crazy around here!” I have this expression:
Anyway, up until this point of sporadic contact, she was excited to talk to me about my wedding and the prospect of being part of it. Now I feel like maybe due to her current circumstance(s), she can’t afford to travel here AND buy her bridesmaid attire and doesn’t know how to tell me. As a note: I’m paying for her daughter’s attire and have already offered up my guest bedroom for them to stay in (cutting out the need to get a hotel room; HUGE savings!) and still nothing…no response from her. I don’t know how much easier I could make it for her, nothing short of paying for her dress and their plane tickets here (which I most certainly can’t afford). I’m trying not to worry too much since I still have a handful of months, but I’m a planner and at the very least like to know things are in the works. Would it be unreasonable of me to broach the topic with her? Maybe ask her if she would feel better being invited as a guest, that way if she finds that closer to the date that she really can’t afford the plane tickets that she doesn’t have to feel any guilt about also leaving me down one bridesmaid and a flower girl?
I just don’t know. Any Bees out there experience anything like this with their bridesmaids and/or have any advice for resolution? Much appreciated!