(Closed) Out of town bridesmaids and FMIL Shower invites

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should I invite out of town bridesmaids and out of town future mother in law to my shower?
    No, inviting them would look like give grabbing : (1 votes)
    6 %
    Yes, but only the future mother in law : (0 votes)
    Yes, but only the bridesmaids : (0 votes)
    Yes, invite them all : (15 votes)
    94 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    4375 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @SuprBooper:  I invited my bridesmaids out of courtesy/because they were important to me, but also e-mailed them and said that I completely understood that it was a long trip for them and they shouldn’t feel like they had to be there.

    I would invite Future Mother-In-Law and just let your Fiance know that you won’t be upset if she can’t make it, so he can pass that on if she worries about trying to make the trip.

     

    Post # 4
    Member
    39 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I’m confused on this topic too. My mom is throwing my shower and feels it would be best to send the invites to everyone because it would be weird to invite them to the wedding and not the shower. I don’t want to feel like I’m looking for gifts either! Just wanted to let everyone know they are included. In the end I’m letting my mom (the host) decide. Good luck! 

    Post # 5
    Member
    9053 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I would invite them, but let them know that you wanted just wanted to make sure that all those you would have loved to have there knew they were more than wanted, but they certainly don’t have to make the trip.  I would think it was really strange to be a bridesmaid and not at least have the option of going to the shower.

    Post # 6
    Member
    2324 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I would invite them but give them a call as you mnetioned above

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