Post # 1
I’m confused on ettiquite. One of my bridesmaids and her mother are giving me a shower in my hometown (about 2,000 miles from where I live now). The rest of my bridesmaids are scattered around the country/out of the country (all a plane ride away from my hometown). And my future mother in law lives about 1,500 miles from my hometown/shower location.
I want to make sure I include everyone, but I obviously do not expect any of these out of town people to make it to my shower. Especially since we are having a destination wedding 3 weeks later in another location.
My mother has said including the out of town bridesmaids and my future mother in law on the guest list for the shower would look like “gift grabbing.” I definitely do not want to do that, but I want them to know they are important to me.
What should I do? Invite them, but contact each of them to let them know that their presence and gift are not required? Or leave them off the invite list and then contact them to let them know it was only because of the distance?
Thanks for your help!
Post # 3
@SuprBooper: I invited my bridesmaids out of courtesy/because they were important to me, but also e-mailed them and said that I completely understood that it was a long trip for them and they shouldn’t feel like they had to be there.
I would invite Future Mother-In-Law and just let your Fiance know that you won’t be upset if she can’t make it, so he can pass that on if she worries about trying to make the trip.
Post # 4
I’m confused on this topic too. My mom is throwing my shower and feels it would be best to send the invites to everyone because it would be weird to invite them to the wedding and not the shower. I don’t want to feel like I’m looking for gifts either! Just wanted to let everyone know they are included. In the end I’m letting my mom (the host) decide. Good luck!
Post # 5
I would invite them, but let them know that you wanted just wanted to make sure that all those you would have loved to have there knew they were more than wanted, but they certainly don’t have to make the trip. I would think it was really strange to be a bridesmaid and not at least have the option of going to the shower.
Post # 6
I would invite them but give them a call as you mnetioned above