(Closed) Out of town bridesmaids how much $$ for wedding gift

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
828 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Whatever you can afford. 


If you can only afford a $1 card with your handwritten best wishes in it – that’s fine – do that. 


Post # 3
2625 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

For sure I would give a card, and really put some time and thought into a meaningful message.

Beyond that, I don’t think you have to give anything.  Personally, I’d try to buy something off their registry that was maybe in the $20-$30 range.  If they don’t have a registry I’d get a fun board game or some other fun item I think they’d like.

Post # 4
1974 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I drove 3 hours for a wedding this weekend. i gave them $20 because that’s what I could afford. 

My best friend is getting married in Nov. I’m the Maid/Matron of Honor, my SO and I split a $40 gift for both of them. Then I am giving her $20 and a ring holder. Because again, that’s what I can afford right now. 

Post # 5
654 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I would say whatever you can give but no more than $50. I would say $30 is a nice gift. I am sure the bride will understand.  I didn’t even get a gift from a few of my bridesmaids.

Post # 6
7590 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

If I was the bride, I probably wouldn’t even think about gifts from someone in your situation. I was actually hoping my local BMs wouldn’t get me a gift since they had already done so much.

If you can only afford a card then write a nice note to her and I think that’s enough.

Post # 7
355 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

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teddygraham42 :  I’m of the mindset that if you’re a bridesmaid, you don’t have to give a gift. I know many disagree, but I think the dress, parties, etc are all gift enough. We’re telling our bridal party no gifts. 

Post # 8
29 posts
  • Wedding: June 2016

All of my bridesmaids were from out of town (I have moved a lot) and when they asked about my registry I told them not to buy anything because they were already spending and doing so much to be there.  A couple of them bought gifts anyway, but they were all small, like one girl just bought me a bottle of her favorite wine which I loved! If you are already spending $1,500 on the bride’s behalf, I don’t think a gift is really necessary. I would write a nice card, and if you want you could get something small, but just do what you are comfortable with. 

Post # 9
946 posts
Busy bee

I think a thoughtful card more than suffices since you’re showing your love through your travel and other commitments 🙂

Post # 10
47421 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

A lovely card with your best wishes is more than adequate.

Post # 11
5398 posts
Bee Keeper

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teddygraham42 :  Give what you can afford, seriously. It’s so expensive to fly out to be in a wedding. I ended up spending too much on a friends wedding once. We all split a huge gift on top of airline tickets, hotel and dresses and food while there. It ended up costing me $2000. So I would spend wisely and only what you can afford. $50 is fine if you so wish. I would say a minimum is a nice thoughtful card.

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