Post # 1
My friend from college go engaged montages ago and asked me to be one of her bridesmaids for a her wedding originally to be taking place next July. Since she had found out in late August her soon to be husband was getting deployed the wedding was moved to this October. I live over 1500 miles away so the cost of The flight for my fiancé and I to attend is around $1000. I’d say with lodging and the cost of the dress I am spending 1500+ for us to attend this wedding. This expense was not really planned for so soon so money is pretty tight but I also know that the cost of a wedding is astronomical. What would be the minimum amount of a gift we could give with out looking to cheap?
Post # 2
Whatever you can afford.
If you can only afford a $1 card with your handwritten best wishes in it – that’s fine – do that.
Post # 3
For sure I would give a card, and really put some time and thought into a meaningful message.
Beyond that, I don’t think you have to give anything. Personally, I’d try to buy something off their registry that was maybe in the $20-$30 range. If they don’t have a registry I’d get a fun board game or some other fun item I think they’d like.
Post # 4
I drove 3 hours for a wedding this weekend. i gave them $20 because that’s what I could afford.
My best friend is getting married in Nov. I’m the Maid/Matron of Honor, my SO and I split a $40 gift for both of them. Then I am giving her $20 and a ring holder. Because again, that’s what I can afford right now.
Post # 5
I would say whatever you can give but no more than $50. I would say $30 is a nice gift. I am sure the bride will understand. I didn’t even get a gift from a few of my bridesmaids.
Post # 6
If I was the bride, I probably wouldn’t even think about gifts from someone in your situation. I was actually hoping my local BMs wouldn’t get me a gift since they had already done so much.
If you can only afford a card then write a nice note to her and I think that’s enough.
Post # 7
I’m of the mindset that if you’re a bridesmaid, you don’t have to give a gift. I know many disagree, but I think the dress, parties, etc are all gift enough. We’re telling our bridal party no gifts.
Post # 8
All of my bridesmaids were from out of town (I have moved a lot) and when they asked about my registry I told them not to buy anything because they were already spending and doing so much to be there. A couple of them bought gifts anyway, but they were all small, like one girl just bought me a bottle of her favorite wine which I loved! If you are already spending $1,500 on the bride’s behalf, I don’t think a gift is really necessary. I would write a nice card, and if you want you could get something small, but just do what you are comfortable with.
Post # 9
I think a thoughtful card more than suffices since you’re showing your love through your travel and other commitments 🙂
Post # 10
A lovely card with your best wishes is more than adequate.
Post # 11
Give what you can afford, seriously. It’s so expensive to fly out to be in a wedding. I ended up spending too much on a friends wedding once. We all split a huge gift on top of airline tickets, hotel and dresses and food while there. It ended up costing me $2000. So I would spend wisely and only what you can afford. $50 is fine if you so wish. I would say a minimum is a nice thoughtful card.