Post # 1
I have a lot of friends and familywho are either in the military themselves or married to someone in the military, so they are spread out all over the country. Most of them also have kids, so realistically they wouldn’t be able to fly out here for my wedding. Should I send them invites anyway knowing they most likely aren’t coming?
I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings making them think I don’t want them there, but invites and postage costs can add up so if I know they aren’t going to come, why send them an invite? Also I don’t want them to think I’m only sending them an invite for gifts or something…
Post # 3
I would error on the side of inviting. It really is a nice gesture, and who knows which ones might surprise you and actually make it?
If you are close to them, it’s not “gift grabby” but if you want to make it even less so, include a personal letter along the lines of “I know you might not be able to make it, but this is us letting you know that we will be thinking of you on that day.”
Post # 4
@a_day_at_the_fair: I’m still inviting them, even the ones who said that they won’t be able to make it. I figure that since I’ve already extended the verbal invite, I’m going to give them an invitation I worked so hard on!
Post # 5
@Misswhowedding: Some I am close with and talk to regularly even though we don’t physically see each other much. There is one friend in particular that I am thinking about though. We’ve been friends since middle school, and I went to her wedding, but we rarely talk to each other anymore and the last time she was in town I didn’t even see her. I would love to continue the friendship of course because I don’t have any other friends that I’ve known that long, but since the extent of our contact in the past couple of years has been limited to likes or random comments on Facebook, I’m not sure what to do there.
Post # 6
All of my side of the guest list is college friends who live all over the country. They all got save the dates and the response has been surprising! Here I am thinking there’s no way all these broke college grads can make it and most of them ARE COMING!!
Send invites. You never know who will surprise you! (plus its fun to get YES rsvps back from the people you least expected to make it. It makes you feel loved and who doesn’t like that???)