(Closed) out of town guest, 13 years apart

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
5263 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

I would tell them that you’d love to accommodate them, but with the number of people who need a place to stay, you’d feel awful turning some people down and welcoming others in, and point them toward the hotel with blocked off rooms. They should understand. 

Post # 4
6597 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Just because you put them up does not mean that you have to put them up, yes it would be nice but only if you have the means to do so and it doesn’t sound like you do.

I would politely tell them that there is no room but that you would research reasonable accommodations for them!

Post # 5
809 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I agree with the previous posters. I would politely offer to research affordable accommodations. Just because they had you 13 years ago, does not mean you have to put them and all their kids up. 

Post # 6
1566 posts
Bumble bee

I think it’s fine to point them to a hotel (hopefully you already have one with rooms blocked off). It is your responsibility to find a babysitter though. 

Post # 7
4480 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

I agree with all of the above. Point them to a hotel you’ve looked into (if you’ve already blocked off rooms, great!), and get them a referral for a babysitter. You don’t have to host them, but you should do the research for them since you’re already in the area.

Post # 8
144 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I agree with the other posters – if you don’t have room, there’s not much you can do about it besides provide some suggestions for family-friendly places to stay.  To soften it, you might tell them how excited you are to see them, and invite them over for lunch or something.

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