Post # 1
I am unsure how to tackle this issue. Invited to my wedding are 2 sets of really close but out of town guests. When they were married I attended their weddings and was put up in their home or their families. But that was almost 12 -13 years ago and i was a single person, so they only had to put up me. Now they both have asked if i have a place for them to stay. Both families have kids now, one has 3 under 6 and the other has two. My fiancee recently released from the military and is back in school, we have relocated to a smaller home that will not accomadate 2 guests never mind a family of 5. We simply don’t have the room, and to be honest the days leading up to my wedding i don’t think that i will be able to handle little kids in my home, sleeping in my living room as that is the only extra room. I also don’t think it is fair to ask my family as my sisters have their own kids and it will be a busy time for my parents. Any suggestions… The other issue is that we are having a reception with kids only over 10 invited. They are bringing their kids but have mentioned me getting babysitters. What is the etiquettee here?
Post # 3
I would tell them that you’d love to accommodate them, but with the number of people who need a place to stay, you’d feel awful turning some people down and welcoming others in, and point them toward the hotel with blocked off rooms. They should understand.
Post # 4
Just because you put them up does not mean that you have to put them up, yes it would be nice but only if you have the means to do so and it doesn’t sound like you do.
I would politely tell them that there is no room but that you would research reasonable accommodations for them!
Post # 5
I agree with the previous posters. I would politely offer to research affordable accommodations. Just because they had you 13 years ago, does not mean you have to put them and all their kids up.
Post # 6
I think it’s fine to point them to a hotel (hopefully you already have one with rooms blocked off). It is your responsibility to find a babysitter though.
Post # 7
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
I agree with all of the above. Point them to a hotel you’ve looked into (if you’ve already blocked off rooms, great!), and get them a referral for a babysitter. You don’t have to host them, but you should do the research for them since you’re already in the area.
Post # 8
I agree with the other posters – if you don’t have room, there’s not much you can do about it besides provide some suggestions for family-friendly places to stay. To soften it, you might tell them how excited you are to see them, and invite them over for lunch or something.