Post # 1
I tried finding a post on this, but can’t, so I am going to ask!
Almost all of my guests coming to the wedding will be from out of town, and of those who aren’t, a lot will still be staying at local hotels near the wedding. My question is–is an Out of Town Guest Bag necessary? I honestly would never even have known about these if it wasn’t for these boards so that makes me wonder how aware of them the guests are. Are you always supposed to have those? Do I need to make one for every guest/couple staying at a hotel (even if they aren’t out of town) or do I just make them for the non-locals?
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. It’s just another thing to add to the budget that I didn’t really think about in the beginning! 🙁
Thanks In Advance everyone!!!
Post # 3
I do not think its necessary but do think its a nice gesture that guests really appreciate. You do not need to go nuts either. I ordered bags from papermart and made my own labels on Avery 5164. We haven’t bought the goodies yet but was going to include, water, snacks, candy (our wedding is the day after halloween), advil/tylenol, gum and anything else we may find. If you mention it to family maybe even they will pay for it. My Mother-In-Law said it would be one of her little extras!
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2008 - Oceanfront lawn and tent
We just did a folder with maps, schedule, and some area info. We stuck in a postcard too. Everyone really liked them- I have no idea if anyone missed a bigger bag, but I sometimes end up leaving those behind anyways! I’d say it’s nice, but totally NOT required.
Post # 5
I think it’s nice and something that you should do for your guests who are making the trip to your wedding. But, nothing besides a marriage lic. and somebody to marry you is required. As a frequent out of town wedding guests, it’s nice to have some snacks in my room late at night instead of having to order room service or go find some overpriced snack in the mini fridge. It’s also nice to have maps, info, etc. to look at to get more of a feel for the location. Hope This Helps.
Post # 6
pinklau- our wedding is the day of Halloween!!! I was thinking of going the candy route, too, but that is going to be part of our wedding favors so I don’t want to overdo it. I’m also debating on a bag that is Halloween themed since I will also be having those as favors at the wedding. Oy.
I could put in some local brochures (I live near Disney and Busch Gardens so there’s an easy one!), water bottles, and a few snacks. The problem is, is that for 70-90 guests, even if I only do 1 bag per couple, the cost could get easily up to $300 just to make these bags having water bottles and a couple snacks. I’m already giving out cute favor bags at the reception, so I’m just not sure I’m sold on the welcome basket.
But tiramisu–great idea with just putting in maps, schedule, and area info. I could get away really really cheaply by doing that….
Post # 7
I agree that its not really necessary. Its a nice gesture and if you have the budget and time for it, its a good idea. However, most guests are not expecting it so don’t feel bad it you can’t .
Post # 8
We might just skip this. We were thinking that if we *do* do something we’ll just give everyone something small, like a two chocolate-chip cookies wrapped in cellophane and tied with a bow in our colors.
Otherwise it’s just a bunch more money we don’t need to spend and people won’t miss it!
Post # 9
^^ that cookie idea is FAB… I may have to steal it!!
Post # 10
- Wedding: July 2007 - Rosary Chapel & Monterey Marriott, Monterey, CA
As previous posters said, it’s a nice thing to do but by all means NOT necessary. They will not be missed, but if you hand them out, they’ll be more than appreciated.
Our bags cost a little more than $3.75 to create (including a bag that was $2.60) and were overflowing with goodies. The trick is to stay away from the pre-packaged snacks, as those are what really make it expensive. For all the compliments and thanks (and number of friends now doing the same thing for their guests), it was probably the best $120 I spent.
Post # 11
wow guys i didn’t realise how lucky i am! I’m from Ireland and when I see the amount of little extras you guys do for your guests i almost feel bad that i’m not doing the same! the only thing is that my guests will never have heard of things like the out of towner guest bag and stuff so they’ll never know they’re missing it! I just feel bad for you guys having to stretch your budget with things like that. although i have picked up a few ideas from you guys that i’m sure i’m gonna be using on my day, like the little basket in the hotel bathroom and stuff. sorry for rambling there, i just wanted to make an observation! good luck!
Post # 12
we’re doing gable boxes with snacks, brochures for local attractions, welcome letter from us, and bottles of water.
Post # 13
On one side of my family welcome baskets are kind of a standard, so for our wedding each room at the hotel had a basket filled with snacks, bottled water, a welcome letter, a bottle of wine from a local winery, and activity pages for the rooms with children. On the flip side of welcome baskets, my friend gave each room a folder with information and two homemade chocolate chip cookies. I think guests like anything- it’s the thought behind it that matters.
Even if you can’t afford to make much of it, I would consider at least leaving a note of welcome to your guests. Our letter included driections from the hotel to the ceremony, ceremony to reception, hotel to reception, and reception to the hotel. We also listed a few emergency phone numbers in case a guest should need to get in touch with somebody(I would suggest putting phone numbers of at least two people- one on the groom’s side and one on the bride’s side– but NOT your own number)and some of the local restaurants in the area. More than anything it was just a note of thanks for traveling to see us and to let the guests know they were appreciated. After our wedding we actually got a thank you note from one set of relatives for their welcome basket- they loved it!
Post # 14
Totally not necessary. Most decent motels have racks and racks of brochures on local attractions. Depending on your motel, a whole lot of them also have complimentary bottled water in the rooms, and the Marriott hotels have freshly baked cookies for their guests in the afternoon. Little packets of Tylenol send an interesting message about your planned festivities, but I can’t remember the last time I ended up on travel without my own. And if I really need some, I definately need more than the two pills in the little packet.
I have seen a few cute ideas for Out of Town bags on various posts, but frankly a lot of the things that seem to get put in the bags I would just end up tossing. We chose to let our Out of Town guests fend for themselves in the snack department; we had them to a backyard barbecue two nights before the wedding, to the Rehearsal Dinner the night before, and we had previously sent them extensive information about local recreation (wine tasting, golf, etc). If you have both extra time and money that you can’t figure out how to spend elsewhere, then go ahead. I don’t think our Out of Town guests felt slighted for the lack of a goodie-bag.
Post # 15
I think it completely depends on what you want to do. There is a possibility we will have our wedding in Brooklyn, and we will at the very least leave people with a map pointing out cool local restaurants and areas and maybe snacks, a note from us, etc.. Many of our guests have been to NY before but are not very familiar with Brooklyn. I don’t think you need to go and provide a ton of snacks for people. They can find that on their own. I think if many of your guests are not familiar with the area perhaps some information and a welcome note might be nice. Also we are not planning on doing favors so this will be in lieu of them for the out of towners.
Post # 16
Out of Town bags are not necessary but are nice if people had to make a trip to come to the wedding.
If you reserved a block of rooms at the hotels, then I would say that anyone who took you up on that offer gets an Out of Town bag. You can’t be in charge of knowing where everyone is staying!
I made reservations for 10 blocks of rooms at 2 hotels, so I’m making 20 Out of Town bags.
If you didn’t make reservations at any hotels, then I would do it for the non-locals and try to figure out where they are staying, if you can. Otherwise, don’t sweat it.