(Closed) out of town guest bringing an uninvited guest

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
5977 posts
Bee Keeper

Call her and let her know that she was the only name on the invite, and therefore, the only person invited to the wedding. Seriously – definitely put it nicer than what I just wrote, but just let her know that you’re having a small, intimate wedding of 75 people, and you can’t afford to have any extra guests that were outside of what was written on the invitation.

Post # 4
455 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Agree… simply let her know that the size of the venue does not allow for additional guests. 

Post # 5
8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Give her a call and let her know that unfortunately there just isn’t enough space for her to bring another person and that you hope she will still be able to make it.

Post # 6
3520 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I would actually email her so you could carefully choose your words and give her a chance to read it and respond.  She might be defensive if you call her, and with an email or letter, you have the opportunity to say more without her shutting you out.

Post # 7
5657 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

Just call her and let her know that she doesn’t have a plus one in the nicest way possible. 

Post # 8
241 posts
Helper bee

Just tell her you can’t afford or fit everyone with a guest so you hope she will still come but can not bring a guest. I don’t think that is rude or mean at all.

Post # 9
1041 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I would just flat out tell her that you can only accomodate her and not a guest. You hope she can make it, but understand if she cannot.

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