Post # 1
I am making my shower invite list to pass on to Maid/Matron of Honor and I am wondering what the etiquette is regarding out of town guests. I have several aunts and cousins that live out of state. I am sure the aunties will be coming to the wedding but I do not expect them to travel here for the shower. Is it proper or rude to send them shower invites? I am thinking that they will appreciate the notice that the event is taking place, but I do not want it to be seen as a request for gifts. What do you think?
Post # 3
I’m not sure about the etiquette for sure but I have always been invited to showers even though I was out of state for all the weddings I was invited to.
Post # 4
I initially only included immediate family, but heard from my mom that my aunts were expecting invites (though of course they were not intending to come), so added them too. I didn’t invite my cousins, though—half of them live out of the country and the other half are 3,000 miles away so it seemed silly. I do think it depends on your family and their expectations, though.
Post # 5
Even though a lot of the family members were out of state I still included them by having them invited to the shower. They really appreciated being considered a part of the party even though they most likely won’t attend.