(Closed) Out of town guests staying at your house before wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Family
  • poll: Is it weird for out of town guests to stay at the bride and groom's house the night before?


    Yes, unless they are in the wedding party and/or will be helping

    Yes, unless staying in a hotel was a financial hardship for the guest


  • Post # 2
    53 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I mean if you’re really going to be that stressed about it it’s up to you. But I seriously doubt anyone with sense would expect you to entertain them. Just be like, here’s the fridge here’s the bed – I’m sorry I’m a hot mess this week. We’ll have to have a proper visit next time!

    It’s only weird if they stay the wedding night or something.

    • This reply was modified 6 years, 8 months ago by mediatourist.
    Post # 3
    3273 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I wouldnot say weird, but I would not have wanted that at all!

    Post # 4
    787 posts
    Busy bee

    Definitely not. I had my mum and best friend stay at our house the Wednesday night before our Friday wedding but they were there to help me and definitely no one except DH and I the Thursday night (night before wedding). We needed down time and alone time. 

    Post # 5
    6311 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

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    sunshineandpolkadots:  Do you still live at home? You can’t really dictate who/when people allow guests at their house – unless it’s YOUR house. DH and I owned a home and lived together well before marriage. We decided together that there would be no one staying with us the week of our wedding – period. It’s just too hectic to play hostess to house guests. I could see if maybe you were planning to get ready at your parents house, having house guests milling around would be not that great (as a wedding photographer, we HATE extra people people around because they really do get in the way when working in already tight places).

    Post # 6
    10835 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper


    Not at all weird, but a total pain in the arse  nonetheless. I would not let it happen if at all posssible.  

    Post # 7
    1413 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2016

    Weird if Fiance and I were staying at our house the night before, and a guest was there also – I would want that last night to be just the two of us. 

    If I was off in a hotel or something, I would probably let a close relative or friend stay at my house if they needed to. 

    Post # 8
    1265 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    I guess it just depends on who it is,but I’d lean towards no on that. Any other time, the doors are open. That week is just going to be too crazy and people may drop by, but I don’t want them staying over. I would prefer  it to be just us and the Kids. 

    Post # 9
    320 posts
    Helper bee

    I wouldn’t say it’s “weird” but definitely annoying.

    My sister and her son are staying with us because there is absolutely no way she could afford it, THEN my aunt and uncle are also staying. This leaves my brother with no place to sleep and my mom telling me to sleep in the guest bedroom to “make room for guests”. When I said, “I’m not being uncomfortable before MY wedding” she got all angry. Sometimes you just can’t win. I still don’t know what I’m going to do. I might just be bridezilla towards my madre because shes the only one I don’t feel bad doing it towards lol. 

    Post # 10
    142 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    If someone was staying at my house the night before my wedding they better expect to be helping out!

    Post # 11
    6608 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    But aren’t all these people staying at your mom’s house?

    Post # 12
    3848 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

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    sunshineandpolkadots:   We did not have any guests the night before our wedding and it was a huge relief.  I wanted that evening to be as stress free as possible, I wanted to go to bed early and get a good rest.   I wouldn’t call it weird but it sure would be annoying to have guests the night before the big day.  

    Post # 13
    769 posts
    Busy bee

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    sunshineandpolkadots:  Maybe the way you said it was rude, but I’m totally gonna side with you on this one. As much as I love my family and FI’s family, just the thought of them being in the same house as me on the morning of my wedding is making me freak out. I should probably add that I’m extremely introverted, so I need my space. I would not be able to get through an entire day of family and friends if I didn’t have any time to myself beforehand. If lodging were to be an issue, I would consider getting a hotel room for myself and allowing my family to crash at my house so they can pile up in the rooms however they please to save on multiple hotel rooms.

    Post # 14
    2477 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

    My parents are staying with us on the Wednesday night (Saturday wedding) before we all head up the coast to where the wedding is on the Thursday.  The night before, I’d be OK with my parents, siblings or bridesmaids but no-one else!

    Post # 15
    93 posts
    Worker bee

    I had my mom and sister stay with me the week of my wedding. It was the worst decision because rather than help me they stressed me out. They were basically on vacation (I live 3 blocks from the beach)and ruined my timeline. If you can avoid family staying with you I highly recommend it. Emotions are already running wild to begin with and then adding the stress of family isn’t the best combo.

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