(Closed) Out Of Town Wedding Advice

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I am in this boat.

My Fiance is from a province 6 hours away. At the time we began planning the wedding, we  decided to have it in his hometown because one of his grandmother wasn’t well enough to travel for the 6 hour car ride.

Now she is doing better, but we have still decided to keep the event there and even to this day, many people have showed their disapproval.

I am hoping that my guests feel welcomed, I will be putting hotel info on our website. As long as maps and directions. Some info on the local site seeing things.

In the end, I hope that the few people I have invited will love us enough to want to share our day with us. Good luck!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Our wedding was a “destination wedding” for ~90% of our guests.  No matter where we had it, a significant amount of people would have had to travel.  I think this is becoming more and more common as people get spread out, so don’t worry about it.

Do you have a wedding web site?  You could list places to stay, restaurants, local attractions, etc. for the benefit of your out-of-town guests who might want to make a weekend of it.  And definitely look into setting up a block of rooms at a hotel near your wedding.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I got married in Savannah, GA. We live in DC.  My Darling Husband is from Brazil.  I have lived many places over my years and my parents now live in CA.  Both of our families are all over the place.  WE decided to have it in Savannah because we have no ties to DC and it would be a lot cheaper to do it in the south.  We invited 130 people and about 95 attended.  Pretty good numbers!  If people love you and have the money, they will travel for you.  Most of our friends lived in FL and drove about 6-8hrs to attend so I believe that no matter what, people will make it if they really want to.

Post # 6
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843 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I got married in Savannah, GA. We live in DC.  My Darling Husband is from Brazil.  I have lived many places over my years and my parents now live in CA.  Both of our families are all over the place.  WE decided to have it in Savannah because we have no ties to DC and it would be a lot cheaper to do it in the south.  We invited 130 people and about 95 attended.  Pretty good numbers!  If people love you and have the money, they will travel for you.  Most of our friends lived in FL and drove about 6-8hrs to attend so I believe that no matter what, people will make it if they really want to.

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I live in Tennessee, but we are having the wedding in Virginia where I grew up.  Guess what?  People are complaining about that, too!  No matter what, it’s impossible to please everyone.  Do what is best and most meaningful to you and your fiance, and try to ingnore the rest.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Yes! I grew up abroad, he grew up in Montana, and we met in Japan!

My parents are a bit disappointed that we decided to have the big wedding in Montana, but we are following German tradition by having a civil service in Germany first. That way my parents are able to celebrate the occasion with their friends, too.

The reasons we decided for the US are simple: I will move to be with my FI; gifts will be delivered on the right continent; it is much easier for my friends and relatives to travel than for his! And since most of my relatives live in the US, it reduces the number of people who will have to fly long distance.

I think that many couples these days decide to have their wedding where they live or some place that they have a meaningful connection with. So I wouldn’t worry too much about it. People will be happy that you have found someone to spend your life with no matter what. 

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

I had my wedding in my hometown, but it was a little easier because both of our parents still live there and 1/2 of my bridesmaids were there and all the groomsmen were too.

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