Post # 1
Hi! My fiancee and I have been together for 19 years and we are going to actually tie the knot on or 20th anniverary (of being together)..:-) We want to invite some out-of-state friends that have been a great support for us in the past. We want to make sure they know that they are not obligated to come but know that they were thought of and know how much they mean to us. We plan on sending them special invitations with some kind of wording to this affect. Does anyone have any ideas on how to word this? We aren’t accepting gifts, as after 20 years, we definitey have enough stuff to last a life time so the obligation to send a gift will not be there..:-)
Post # 2
I think just sending them the regular invitations and following up with a phone call or message that explains you understand they may not be able to go would be much more polite. I personally would be a bit uncomfortable with an invite that implies I’m invited but I shouldn’t worry about going to the wedding. Talking to them in person would eliminate that chance for misinterpretation.
Post # 3
Send a regular invitation and let them decide. An invitation is not a summons. I’m usually the out of town one, it feels weird when someone says “please come, but you don’t have to come.” Regarding gifts, just don’t create a registry. However, know that people will give what they want to give.
Post # 4
Just a regular invite. And yes, don’t do a registry. If people ask what you want for a gift you can tell them that you have everything you need already. Some people will buy gifts or give you cash anyways.
Post # 5
Just a regular invite. Include something in your ceremony about how special everyone is to you that is attending.
Post # 6
Just send a regular invite. Everyone knows they aren’t required to go to a wedding just because they got an invite. Sending a special invite could make it seem like you don’t actually want them to come.