Post # 1
Ok bees so my wonderful maid of honor decided to throw a surprise bridal shower. She just sent out invites which I accidentally came across at my mothers house 🙁 (I know im terrible). However I found out that she is planning on having an outdoor bridal shower in August… We live in Southern Illinois and it is really muggy and humid in the summer. Especially July and August. There aren’t really any shade trees where she is having it and she isn’t renting a tent. This all adds up to no shade :/. Now I am not even suppose to know about the shower for one, and two she has worked so hard and already sent out invites so while I dont want my guests being uncomfortable and sweaty (some of which are elderly) I also dont want to hurt her feelings or make her feel unappreciated. She is after all my best friend. Oh and on top of it all… She is pregnant and emotional right now so I have to tread lightly. Any suggestions?
Post # 3
If you are not supposed to know about it, don’t know about it. You are the guest of honor, not the hostess.
Post # 4
Let her do her thing. The shower doesn’t reflect on you directly and you’re not supposed to even know about it. If you are really concerned, confess to your mom that you saw the invite and see if she would be willing to help/say something.
Post # 5
Agree with julies1949: (Reply # 2)
Party is being held in YOUR HONOUR… BUT IS NOT YOUR PARTY.
That said, is there someone you can put your trust in not to blow your cover… and intervene on your behalf (someone who can keep their mouth’s shut that you know)
Mom would be ideal if she is trustworthy.
“Susie, I got the Invite… and I am just wondering what arrangements you’ve made for the weather, and Guest’s Comfort ? Shade, Seating, that sort of thing. Particularly concerned about the Elderly Guests like Gramma Joan and Aunt Edith”
Otherwise, you have to breathe in and let this one go… it may be in your Honour… BUT you are not the Hostess.