Post # 1
By now I am highly aware that I cannot have a Catholic wedding ceremony outside of the Church. Unfortunately before I knew that, we already booked our dream venue. I’ve gone to Church every Sunday since birth and went to Catholic school from kindergarten through graduating high school and I have never been told this. I guess it didn’t matter since I wasn’t of age to be married?
Anyway, I am baptized and confirmed Catholic and my dad and his whole side of the family are deeply religious. In order to have some sort of resemblance to a Catholic ceremony, I would really like to find someone to officiant our wedding who is either an ex-priest or at least familiar with religious ceremonies.
Has anyone else found an officiant in the Richmond area? It is so hard to find Catholics in the South (I’m originally from Baltimore, MD). Please don’t cast stones at me I know I should have figured out the officiant before booking a venue, but there are extenuating circumstances that lead me to this point and I can’t change it now. Thanks for any advice or information!
Post # 2
Hmm…I’m not sure of an officiant, but if you can’t find some, you could look into convalidation shortly after the wedding?
Post # 3
Hi, thanks so much for your response. Yep, I plan to do that right after the wedding. We already have someone to do that part thank goodness.
Post # 4
For what time of day is your ceremony scheduled? Is there any way that you can have a private Catholic ceremony in the morning or afternoon of your wedding day to accommodate your officially being married in the Church and your legal wedding and then have a second ceremony a few hours later at the scheduled time and venue?
Post # 5
I was going to go that route originally but for whatever reason, the Deacon we’re in contact with said it might be easier to just do it after the ceremony. I just really want it to have the look and feel of a Catholic wedding. I know that sounds silly, but it’s important to me (and especially for my dad) for it to be religious and meaningful. I really wish I had known all this at the beginning.
Post # 6
I may be totally off base here, so someone please correct me if I’m wrong, but I think some Christian denominations allow outdoor weddings. Check with some ministers/pastors and see if they’d be willing to perform your ceremony even if you’re not of that faith.
Post # 7
What religion is your husband? If he’s not Catholic, you can do the ceremony in his religion and then get the marriage approved by the Catholic church at a later date. This might be a better approach than “faking” a Catholic ceremony for your dad.
Post # 8
He is Baptist. I was just wondering if anyone else has had a similar situation and what they ended up doing. Thanks for the advice 🙂
Post # 9
Have you talked to your dad about it? In some cases I’ve known of, religious parents/families were more offended by a ceremony that was trying to resemble a Catholic one but wasn’t than they were bothered by the ceremony being not Catholic in the first place. Especially since you’re doing a convalidation, I wouldn’t worry about trying to make your ceremony resemble a Catholic one. The biggest difference between a Catholic wedding and many mainline Protestant ceremonies is the mass aspect; having Bible readings and standard Christian wording for vows and such could strike a balance of the familiar without coming off as “fake” Catholic to anyone from your side who might be bothered by it.