Post # 1
Hi, having a non-traditional wedding, paying for it ourselves, 2nd time for both of us. Not looking for the glitz and glam, concentrating on the marriage itself but still want a nice ceremony and reception. Found a lovely site today, a historical home, built in 1900. Having the actual ceremony on the front porch, it’s lovely. Wondering if it’s okay to have guests stand, seats for older guests. Is that too tacky?
Post # 3
How long is the ceremony? Personally I think you need chairs regardless. How many people are you expecting?
Post # 4
You definately need chairs. It wouldn’t look organized and guests would be uncomfortable.
Post # 5
I think it depends on how long the ceremony is. Also, if you have guests with children, or guests who are elderly, it might be better to provide seats for them.
Post # 6
If you have a short ceremony and provide seating for the older guests, I think you can sorta get away with it. A lot of guests might be wearing uncomfortable shoes, so that’s something to keep in mind. If you can swing it, I’d say chairs at the ceremony go a long way in overall guest comfort, so maybe there’s somewhere else you could save some money. At the least, you could provide enough chairs that only guests who volunteer to stand have to do so.
Post # 7
Get seats for everyone. Some people always feel entitled to them and wont cede their chairs to the old people… It may not sound intuitive but if you have standing room only, I can guarrenty at least a hand full of ladies will have their stilettos sink into your yard. I don’t know about you but I wouldnt want my yard aerated.
Post # 8
I agree to get sits for everyone. It cost us around $220 for 50 seats for our park ceremony. It was definitely worht it because we were an hour late getting started due to traffic.
Post # 9
I have attended a ceremony on a deck overlooking a lake. It was a beautiful spot for the ceremony. Most people had seats, especially the elderly. However not everyone had seats. It got a tad uncomfortable as the ceremony went on. Standing in heels is not exactly comfortable, lol. We all sucked it up because that’s just what you do at a wedding, but it wasn’t like we preferred that arrangement as guests. At least the ceremony was covered so we weren’t in the elements when it began to sprinkle.
Post # 10
I would have seating for everyone for the reasons PPs have already stated, sorry!
Post # 11
Thanks, guys. We’ll have seats for older guests, it’s a small wedding, approx 25 guests. I found a previous discussion on this site and quite a few “bees” had wedding ceremonies without chairs. Ceremony will last approx 20 minutes. No biggie, thanks for your thoughts though.
Post # 12
I think standing for 20 minutes and seats for the older folks is fine as long as your guests know in advance that is what they will be expected to do. Talk up your venue/arrangements and the ladies will know to wear comfortable shoes.
Post # 13
I think you have to get seats. Uncomfortable shoes, kids, elderly, disabled – all good reasons to have seats.
They wouldn’t have to be fancy or really expensive, but I think youre guests would really appreciate it.
Post # 14
Get chairs for everyone. I’ve been to weddings with seats only for some people, and it sucks. You’re not just standing (in heels) for the length of the ceremony. Most people get to weddings early (15-30 minutes), and that tacked onto the ceremony time, plus cocktail hour… it’s a long time to stand up. Chairs for 25 people won’t cost that much.
Post # 15
One of my bridesmaids was married 2 months before me and had a ceremony where they made everyone (except elderly and pregnant women) stand. It was a 15 min ceremony, and even that felt too long. It was also a problem because as a short person, it was hard to see anything!
Post # 16
Chairs 100%. Even if you have a 20 min ceremony it will mean standing for about 35 mins, since people won’t get there right at the start time, but will arrive early.
Also, how do you decide who is disabled enough to deserve a chair? Not everyone has a visible issue. Not to mention that people will be in their high heels and fancy clothes which would decrease standing ability.
It also brings up logistical issues, how do you reserve the seats for those that need them?