(Closed) outdoor wedding, the sun, and chemo

posted 6 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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471 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

(((Hugs))) to you and your husband. How long is the event, just outside for the wedding or an all day affair?

If going with sunscreen make sure he puts it on before he steps outside and to use a high spf. How does he tolerate the sun now? There aren’t any tents or gazebos that the bride and groom are setting up? How is he tolerating the chemo? (Sometimes the effects don’t happen for a couple of days) Is he going to be able to handle the heat without being sick?

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Sending you both lots of love and support. I too had a close loved one go through cancer tyreatment and i think emotionally the beginning is the hardest for them. It’ s such a scary time and i think sometimes the acceptance of how their life has changed is the most difficult.

I can understand why he doesnt want to stand out but, could the bride and groom get all their groomsmen to wear some funky/stylish hats? I know it’s their day and you dont want to be a pain by getting them to make changes but 1) If they are close to your partner which im guessing they are, they would want to make sure he wont suffer with the sun 2) If it’s a long day outdoors all the groomsman will be grateful and have no problem wearing a hat. They could also take it off after the ceremony if they wanted.

Good Luck.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper

Sunsceren will be fine but make sure it is applied at least an hour to half an hour prior to going out in the sunshine and it has a high spf level.

Even if he wears a bandanna/scarf he should wear sunscreen as well- there is nothing worse than a sunburnt head.

Alternatively a fedora hat or similar can look smart with a suit. But if he doesn’t want to stand out/look different then I would just not wear anything. maybe try it from the angle that a lot of men are bald and no one raises an eye at that!

As for getting used to it- it just takes time. The first time I lost my hair to chemo I was a crying mess but there does come a day when you wake up and accept it as the lesser of the evils! It is really hard to go out in public at first because you feel self concious and like everyone is looking at you but you do learn to live with the very few stares it just takes time. I actually notice more how many people are going through the same thing post chemo than I did before.

One of the best things that helped me was the fact that my Darling Husband made me feel loved, sexy and attractive through out.

I wish your hubby all the luck in the world during his fight 🙂 And remember to take care of yourself as well- a lot of people forget about the person doing all the caring but it is just as hard for you so make sure you look after yourself.

 

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

wonder if the bride has thought about parasols? I bought some for me, the girls, and the moms, as a “just in case we’re melting during the ceremony.” I didn’t for the groomsmen, but if this was the situation, I certainly would. I think a smart looking fedora, etc. would be fine. 

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

@campbali:  I gave chemo for about 4 years. Definately talk with the staff when he goes in this week. They might be willing to give him extra fluids and nausea medications at the end of the week to make sure he is feeing well through the weekend. We did whatever we could for people with big events going on to get them through. Mabe if you could bring some kind of umbrella/parisol and he can step underneath when he needs to get out of he sun. I would be concerned about his scalp, even with sunscreen on it is really sensitive skin with a lot of nervesright under the skin, it would be really painful for him to get a burn at this point. I am keeping you and your husband in my thought and prayers and feel free to PM if you ever need someone to talk to.

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