(Closed) Outer envelope addressing…”Mr. Joe Blow and Guest” – weird?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I think it sounds weird too, but I see it done like that all the time. It is only a couple of people? I might let them know via phone or email that they’re welcome to bring a guest instead of writing it out. It does look odd. 🙂

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I don’t think it’s weird at all to write “& Guest” on the outer envelope.  Ideally, you should know every guests name before the invites go out, but that doesn’t always happen.  I’ve received two invitations in the past year with my fiance written “& Guest” on the outer envelope.

I think it’s better to write it than to leave your guests wondering if they have a guest or not.

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I wrote “& guest” on the outer envelope and then “2 places have been reserved in your honor” on the RSVP card. I don’t think anyone will mind.

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I did that for my invitations because I, too, only had an outer envelope to reduce paper usage.  It did feel weird putting “and guest,” but I thought maybe the nicely-written calligraphy would make up for it 😉  And also, I think, most of those people would understand. 

I also like Tee’s suggestion.  Or you can put a small notecard or tag in the RSVP that says, “For So-and-so and Guest”

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I also didn’t have inner envelopes (I was not happy about it!) but I did write “Mr. Smith and Guest” or “The Smith Family”.  I didn’t love it … but then I realized that it gets opened and thrown out!  After I thought about that I put it out of my mind and moved on to the next big decsion!

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion

Personally i wouldn’t do it.  I’d just let the person know some other way that they can bring a guest if they like.  Maybe you could put it on the reply card?

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I wouldn’t put it on the outer envelope… I’d slip a note in with the invitation. “We hope you can come! If you’d like to bring a guest, you’re certainly welcome to.”

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I was invited to a few weddings with my fiance as “and guest”. When we got it in the mail we laughed a little, but without that, we wouldn’t have known I was invited too, so i think it’s fine to do it. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

That’s what we did. We did not want to do inner envelopes and we figured that would be the easiest way to get the point across.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

where it was safe to assume who the “and guest” would be, we just wrote the guest’s name on the envelope as well. for those that were less clear / obvious, we left the “and guest” off but emailed / spoke to the person to let them know it was fine for them to bring a guest.

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I like the idea of either letting the person know by phone or email or in person that they can bring a guest, or including a note with the invitation.  We made up little insert cards with our invites that said “You are welcome to bring a guest!” and stuck those in with the invitations for people who were getting a plus one.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

It may be wrong and seem weird, but that’s what I did because I had to as I also didn’t use inner envelopes!

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think addressing the envelopes using “and guest” is perfectly fine!  I’ve received a ton of invitations that were dresses that way, and never thought it looked weird.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

My fiance and I have both gotten wedding invitations like that (when we first started dating). I never thought twice about it..we both knew the other was invited.

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