(Closed) Outer envelope addressing…”Mr. Joe Blow and Guest” – weird?

posted 11 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We have inner envelopes and want to include them.  However, we don’t want to print anything on the inner envelopes.  Can we still write Mr. Joe Smith and Guest on the outer envelope or would that be weird?  So we would have both envelopes, but the inner one would be used just as a holder of the invitation, response card, etc.

Post # 18
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Bumble bee

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@Hwould:  It is not “proper”, but brides do all manner of not-proper things without being thought wierd. And what is “wierd” anyway, but another word for unique, unconventional and different. And nowadays nearly every bride wantshere wedding to be “unique”.

I have to say, I think the most unique wedding nowadays would be the one where the bride actually does pay more than lip service to “etiquette” and makes the extra effort to follow proper protocol. And certainly any number of bees have pointed out that they find proper form to be “wierd”, so you are probably safer to be flouting it.

I would probably find myself wondering why you bothered killing the extra tree to have inner envelopes when you weren’t going to put them to proper use, but I wouldn’t waste too much energy on such wondering.

Post # 19
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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@aspasia475:  Thanks for your opinion!  I think we are going to use both but olay print on the outer envelope.  The inner envelopes were a bonus and we didn’t know we were going to get them.  So, since we have them we figure we’ll use them.  We, also, noticed the outer envelopes are a little big for just the invitation, response card, etc.  Also, thanks for making me feel not so “weird”!

Post # 20
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2413 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We aren’t inviting single friends with a plus one so everyone will be addressed directly on the invite. However, if I didn’t know someone’s name, I’d write “and guest” on it as we are not doing inner envelopes…it’s the last of my wedding worries, truth be told!

 

Post # 21
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871 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

Be prepared for “and guest” to be the hot chick he met last week. When invites go out the wedding party will be offered a plus one, other than that married couples , engaged couples or permanent couples (have met their SO many times, know their name, holidays are celebrated together) no wedding guest is getting the open ended option of bring whoever. So an invite might be to Mr. Dan Evans and Miss Becky Andrews…if Dan breaks up with Becky then dan comes alone not with his rebound.

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