Post # 1
When we get married next August my Fiance and I will be 22, so of course I’m sure everyone is thinking that we will be ‘partying it up’ and having lots of alcohol. Our venue for the reception does not allow any alcohol, and at the time that was fine with us but now I’m thinking that our guests may be disappointed because that’s not the ‘norm’. Do you think my guests (family and friends) will be upset/disappointed that we are not having alcohol?
Post # 3
My Fi and I are in our mid 20s and we don’t drink. So we politely explained it to his fam (mine don’t drink either) and they were totally fine with it. They thought it was fine cause it’s our wedding and a representation of who we are (and also same venue issues).
If your friends want to drink then go with them to an after party.
Post # 4
Sure, some people are going to be really bummed, but it’s not worth changing venues.
I’ve been to multiple dry weddings and found them to be just as fun and enjoyable.
Personally, if someone didn’t want to come to my wedding because there wouldn’t be alcohol there, I wouldn’t want him/her there anyways.
Post # 5
Some people may be a little bummed out about it, but it’s your wedding and you’re the one footing the bill, so don’t worry about it! I think they’ll still have a great time. If you don’t drink or you don’t approve of drinking, then you shouldn’t have to pay for others to drink either! My fiance and I are vegetarians and we are not having any meat or egg products served at our reception because it goes against what we believe. Good luck!
Post # 6
Yes, some of them will. But it’s your wedding and if you don’t want/can’t have alcohol there that’s your choice and not theirs. Fiance and I decided that to cut costs the only free beverage will be soda since there’s a $75 all you can drink soda deal at our venue. But we don’t want to spend hundreds for our relatives to get drunk and as brideatbeach said, if the lack of alcohol is their reason for not coming you wouldn’t want them there anyway.
Post # 7
what about a signature non alcoholic drink?? some of them are super yummy and for a hot august wedding, you could have lots of fun coming up with something
Post # 8
That’s what I was going to suggest as well.
Or other fun things like an ice cream bar or chocolate fondue area will keep guests happy as well : )
Post # 9
Will some people be disappointed? For sure. But you can’t please everyone. I think you should tell folks in advance, so they know what to expect, especially if your friend/family normally offer alcohol. But don’t stress over it, unless YOU really want alcohol. If you’re okay with it, I’m sure your guests will be, too.
Post # 10
Some people need a stiff drink to get through family functions, they will just bring their own ice chest in their cars. Or that might just be my family 😉
Post # 11
We are in our twenties but we’re religious and so are most of our families and friends so there won’t be drinks there. The guests wouldn’t even expect there to be, anyways. Its fine with us.
Post # 12
We’re not having alcohol because of some family issues, so we’re hosting a mini afterparty at our apartment. I know some people will be disappointed, but i’m not too concerned :). You really can’t please everyone.
Post # 13
Thank you sooo much everyone! Just hearing from all of you that it won’t make our reception terrible makes me feel much better! Our families are not much of the drinkers anyways, but I know that some people expect the alcohol at receptions. We are also having an afterparty/bonfire, so people will be able to enjoy a couple drinks there!
@eloping: Thanks so much for that idea! I really think we will do that now!
Post # 14
I second eloping’s idea. We didn’t have alcohol but offered glass bottles Dublin Dr. Pepper (with a little sign explaining the significance of our choice since it’s the drink of our university) during the cocktail/Dr Pepper Hour and then iced tea, lemonade and water during the reception. Everyone seemed to loved the Dr Pepper.
No one complained to us during the reception and the few people that mentioned something beforehand were ones that also complained when DH stopped drinking so that was to be expected on their end (in short, those that complained were being kind of ridiculous with all things alcohol)
Post # 15
i commented on another thread that i love the glass dispensers with various drinks in them – i even bought one myself because they look fabulous with lime or lemons inside them
Post # 16
This was an issue of mine as well! I got some great ideas and have actually decided that we are going to have a non-alcoholic drink bar! I think we will have like 4-6 different drinks in the glass containers with cute names like love potion etc on each one with a one line explaining what it really is! I think it will be lots of fun and people will be too involved in trying all the drinks that they won’t even care there is no booze 🙂