(Closed) Over 21, but no alcohol at reception?

posted 9 years ago in 20 Something
  • poll: Do you think my guests will be upset/disappointed that we are not having any alcohol?
    Yes : (121 votes)
    67 %
    No : (59 votes)
    33 %
  • Post # 18
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    There is a very good chance your reception will end earlier as well. As your guest I would come of course, but I’d also be leaving earlier than I would otherwise to party/ grab a beverage elsewhere.

    Post # 19
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I agree that sure, some people might be a little disappointed, but at the end of the day, they are there to support your marriage!  They’ll get over it.  If I were you, I might enlist the help of your families and wedding party to help get the word out, so people know before hand.  Personally, I feel the same about a cash bar; it puts me off (just a tiny bit) to find out on the spot I have to pay for something.  It never ruins a wedding or upsets me by any means, I’m happy to do it, but it’s nice to know going in so I can have cash, or not expect any alcohol.

    Enjoy your day, and do whatever you are comfortable!

    Post # 20
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    we are also not having alcohol at our wedding. both sides have recovering alcoholics and very…rambunctious…family after they have been drinking. we are thining of doing like fresh cider(my favorite drink) and sodas or sparkling cider (another favorite) i really dont care if people are dissapointed because its our choice and we choose to not enable our gets to get plastered and make a scene of themselves 🙂

    Post # 21
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    Bumble bee

    @aprose: What does cider mean where you’re from? Where I’m from, it is alcoholic.

    Post # 22
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @VickyAurea: Really? The definition off cider is ‘an unfermented drink made by crushing fruit’. Some people add alcohol, but it certainly isn’t necessary.

    Post # 23
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    Bumble bee

    It’s y’alls choice – if they will be ‘disappointed’ that’s their problem.  You can do whatever you want on your day!

    Post # 24
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I like the idea of having a drink bar with lots of punch and juice options. I’m not a big drinker, so this would be fun for me. I can’t speak for those who enjoy getting drunk at weddings though. If they really care about you, this won’t stop them from coming.

    Post # 25
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    To be honest, I would be super bummed if I went to an evening wedding and found out there was no alcohol. That being said, it’s your day and you have to do what fits in your budget and your preference. You certainly can’t switch venues if you’ve already signed the contract, so just don’t worry about it. Maybe let some of your partying friends know in advance so they’re not expecting that type of event. People will react better to that if they know in advance.

    Post # 26
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    We aren’t having alcohol at our reception. Neither of our immediate families partake in alcohol, I’m sure there are plenty of relatives that do. But, that’s just tough. I think a free dinner should be plenty. People shouldn’t go to a wedding just to get snockered. That’s just my opinion.. To each is to their own.

    Post # 27
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I can’t speak for your family, but I’m thinking of not having alcohol in the picture for my reception either (even though Fiance and I are 25 and 26 respectively), especially if I opt for the church I’ve been attending as the venue for the ceremony and reception. The other reasons are:

    1. Fiance is on a blood pressure medicine so it’s not really in his best interest to drink

    2. I have relatives (at least on my dad’s side) who are anti-alcohol for religious/moral reasons and would likely have a fit if they saw me consuming any and/or knew that I did under any cirucmstances. (I do not adhere to the “no alcohol ever” school of thought. It’s more along the lines of “there’s a time and a place for everything” kind of thing, you know?)

    Post # 28
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @Captain013: I’ve been to one of those “ice chest” weddings. LOL

    Post # 29
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    It really depends on your family.

    My family is Irish and part of every celebration involves alcohol. Fiance and I drink as do all of our friends, so for us, alcohol is very important. Would I be bummed if I went to a wedding without any alcohol available? Yes. But would it make me mad? Of course not. I am there to celebrate the day of two friends/family members and that is what matters the most!

    Post # 30
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    After reading the comments more closely, I just want to mention something: having alcohol at your reception doesn’t mean you are “paying for people to get drunk.” Many people enjoy a social alcoholic beverage and don’t get out of control.

    But again, I think it’s perfectly fine not to have alcohol, just put the word out!

    Post # 31
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I’m going through a similar thing. Our venue doesn’t allow alcohol. For the people that I know normally expect alcohol at a wedding, I am telling them ahead of time (mentioning in conversations, not putting it on the invites or anything!). That way, if they don’t show up due to it, at least I don’t have to pay for food for cranky people that will eat and then run off to the bar.

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