Post # 1
I got married just before my 35th birthday and I struggled with finding a dress that I felt beautiful in. After three kids (the last one was 9lbs and I gained 70lbs), my body has changed so much and in my head, I still feel like I did when I didn’t have to spend hours wading through clothes to find something that hides this and compliments that. Facing that challenge with the wedding dress bit the big one. It dawned on me that the disappointment was because I still love the style of dresses that looked good on the younger me and seeing the older me in them wasn’t so rewarding. I ended up choosing a dress that made me look like I had a figure again, although it didn’t have any of the dreamy elements that I would have loved to wear. Anyone dealing with this?
Post # 3
@jjmomma: I can’t say that I went through quite the same thing, though some of the same elements for sure. I never had a picture in my mind of what my dream dress would look like, BUT I did have a prejudice in my mind of what dresses that I thought would look good or bad on me. Turned out that when I went to try them on, I opened my mind to just trying whatever on and seeing how everything looked/felt/fit. I’m so glad I did, because the types of dresses that I thought I would never in a million years want for my wedding dress, turned out to be the perfect ones for me!
Post # 4
I think no matter the age, and no matter the circumstances, most of us ladies are not models and not celebrities, and have something that makes us insecure – and trying on wedding dresses, or looking at dozen of pictures of gorgeous models wearing them – can make those insecurities rise to the surface. For many of us its weight, for others its height, I bet we could all name something that we look in the mirror and go “uhhgggggg” (for me its my total lack of boobage and bad posture – I have a congential spine curvature)
But then we need to remember why we’re trying on those dresses in the first place – Someone loves you enough to spend FOREVER with you, despite ALL that stuff! I bet your hubby wasn’t looking at your dress and wishing it was different 🙂 That being said, if you were disappointed in your dress, spoil yourself for an anniversary/vow renewal and get a dress you adore and feel gorgeous in.
Post # 5
@mandypop: Beautifully stated and I could’t agree more…
I too have felt similar feelings… At 37 with two kids, my body… well lets just say it ain’t what it used to be. But I am healthy and strong and smart and so excited to live a life with my FI- so I just try to focus on the positve. I found a cute – plus sized tea length wedding dress that I just love! In order to go about the process, I was careful to involve folks that would be supportive and affirming- not tear me down. And it was a fun- actually an awesome “Yes to the Dress! day” 🙂
Post # 6
I have never been that happy with my my figure and one of my favorite styles of dress, I would have never looked quite right in. Luckily, I found another, more forgiving style, that I also like quite a lot.
Getting older isn’t doing anything to enhance my figure (though I suppose a serious gym commitment could make a big dent – I’m not sure I’m up for that though), but I’ve come to accept that I will never look like some beautiful brides, but I will be a beautiful bride nonetheless.
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2014 - Disney
For me my biggest worry was the dress overwhelming me. I’m pretty small and I exercise a lot. I love my dress though and the alterations will ensure I wear it rather than my dress wearing me.
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge
I definitely feel disappointed in how my body looks now. But I have 3 beautiful kids and a fiance who loves me as I am. So I just look for whats flattering and stay away from what isn’t. I know at 31 I can’t wear what a 20 year old bride can and I’ll be 33 when I wed for the first time. I just try to embrace my 30’s and new chapter in my life that wish I was younger or “perkier” or thinner or fewer grays. I am just happy knowing I’m older and can enter marriage more maturely which makes me a “cougar” 🙂
Post # 9
I’m 38 and by the time my wedding comes around I’m going to be 39. I think the biggest hurdle for me is finding an age appropriate dress if that makes sense. I think if I had gotten married in my 20s, the big frills and bling would be awesome, but I just don’t feel that now that I’m older.
I think I’m going to go with a tea length dress since our wedding is not formal and try to have fun with it. But as of right now, I’m a little discouraged.
Post # 10
I am 34 and wore what felt like me and what made me happy. I had a moment in my dress! I think that age really is just a # and no matter what dress you wear on the wedding day everyone will be in awe of how beautiful you are!
Post # 11
hi there co-bees! i want to congratulate all of you who just got married and will be married soon….
i just want to ask for an advice from you ,, do you think its normal,, to fall inlove with a man 8 years junior than you?? do u think its not wrong for a woman to be fall inlove with a man who is 8 years younger than her…
any answer will be appreciated,, thank you so much
god bless all of you….
Post # 12
I don’t have any children, but when dress shopping I did feel like I needed to find something more “age appropriate.” I didn’t feel comfortable letting it all hang out, like I might have 10 years ago. I also have a lot of tattoos and wanted them all covered for a more classic look in photos.