(Closed) Over 30 brides…and the dress

posted 7 years ago in 30 Something
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@jjmomma:  I can’t say that I went through quite the same thing, though some of the same elements for sure.  I never had a picture in my mind of what my dream dress would look like, BUT I did have a prejudice in my mind of what dresses that I thought would look good or bad on me.  Turned out that when I went to try them on, I opened my mind to just trying whatever on and seeing how everything looked/felt/fit.  I’m so glad I did, because the types of dresses that I thought I would never in a million years want for my wedding dress, turned out to be the perfect ones for me!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think no matter the age, and no matter the circumstances, most of us ladies are not models and not celebrities, and have something that makes us insecure – and trying on wedding dresses, or looking at dozen of pictures of gorgeous models wearing them – can make those insecurities rise to the surface.   For many of us its weight, for others its height, I bet we could all name something that we look in the mirror and go “uhhgggggg”  (for me its my total lack of boobage and bad posture – I have a congential spine curvature)

But then we need to remember why we’re trying on those dresses in the first place – Someone loves you enough to spend FOREVER with you, despite ALL that stuff!  I bet your hubby wasn’t looking at your dress and wishing it was different 🙂      That being said, if you were disappointed in your dress, spoil yourself for an anniversary/vow renewal and get a dress you adore and feel gorgeous in.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@mandypop: Beautifully stated and I could’t agree more…

I too have felt similar feelings…  At 37 with two kids, my body… well lets just say it ain’t what it used to be.  But I am healthy and strong and smart and so excited to live a life with my FI- so I just try to focus on the positve.  I found a cute – plus sized tea length wedding dress that I just love!  In order to go about the process, I was careful to involve folks that would be supportive and affirming- not tear me down.  And it was a fun- actually an awesome “Yes to the Dress! day” 🙂

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper

I have never been that happy with my my figure and one of my favorite styles of dress, I would have never looked quite right in. Luckily, I found another, more forgiving style, that I also like quite a lot.

Getting older isn’t doing anything to enhance my figure (though I suppose a serious gym commitment could make a big dent – I’m not sure I’m up for that though), but I’ve come to accept that I will never look like some beautiful brides, but I will be a beautiful bride nonetheless.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Disney

For me my biggest worry was the dress overwhelming me. I’m pretty small and I exercise a lot. I love my dress though and the alterations will ensure I wear it rather than my dress wearing me.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge

I definitely feel disappointed in how my body looks now. But I have 3 beautiful kids and a fiance who loves me as I am. So I just look for whats flattering and stay away from what isn’t. I know at 31 I can’t wear what a 20 year old bride can and I’ll be 33 when I wed for the first time. I just try to embrace my 30’s and new chapter in my life that wish I was younger or “perkier” or thinner or fewer grays. I am just happy knowing I’m older and can enter marriage more maturely which makes me a “cougar” 🙂

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Hi all!

I’m 38 and by the time my wedding comes around I’m going to be 39. I think the biggest hurdle for me is finding an age appropriate dress if that makes sense. I think if I had gotten married in my 20s, the big frills and bling would be awesome, but I just don’t feel that now that I’m older.

I think I’m going to go with a tea length dress since our wedding is not formal and try to have fun with it. But as of right now, I’m a little discouraged.

 

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I am 34 and wore what felt like me and what made me happy. I had a moment in my dress! I think that age really is just a # and no matter what dress you wear on the wedding day everyone will be in awe of how beautiful you are!

Post # 11
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Worker bee

hi  there co-bees! i want to congratulate all of you who just got married and will be married soon….

i just want to ask for an advice from you ,, do you think its normal,, to fall inlove with a man 8 years junior than you?? do u think its not wrong for a woman to be fall inlove with a man who is 8 years younger than her… 

any answer will be appreciated,, thank you so much

god bless all of you….

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I don’t have any children, but when dress shopping I did feel like I needed to find something more “age appropriate.” I didn’t feel comfortable letting it all hang out, like I might have 10 years ago. I also have a lot of tattoos and wanted them all covered for a more classic look in photos. 

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