(Closed) Over 40 and first time down the aisle

posted 8 years ago in 40 Something
Post # 47
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@vicozzie:  Go for it – it is your first and hopefully your only time,

Post # 48
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m going to be a first-time bride next year at 40; my fiance is 42 and was married once before (no kids).  As a girl I never thought much about my wedding except for a few details (never even went to one until I was 24) and I was one of those young women who thought of marriage as a yoke for family planning and said I’d never do it.

I’m SO glad I waited until I’d mellowed out and grew confident that I was the adult I wanted to be, but given that background I’m surprised at the feelings the wedding planning has surfaced.  I have two older sisters–one got married at the justice of the peace with two employees as her witnesses, and the other had a Hawaii destination wedding on Waikiki. My mother passed away ten years ago and I’ve missed her presense more since starting the planning than in a long time.  

Those few details that I did want, I’ve considered and implemented as practical (carriage ride with two Morgan horses to a 17th century steeple church is one I’ve had to let go, given that I’m in the PNW, ha ha).  I’m wearing a silk Jessica McClintock dress as I pictured myself when I was a girl, I’m going to have lots of roses, and we’re exchanging yellow gold bands engraved on the inside.  I don’t especially feel strange working with vendors, if they make me feel old then I simply won’t hire them. But I do wonder what’s appropriate–and how educated I need to be in order to plan successfully–and conflicted.  A large number of guests intimidates both my fiance and I, but “just family” doesn’t really feel like can be our event, either.  I am enjoying the research into different aspects of the big day, but am so relieved when decisions have been made and worry about the cost–is it money well spent?  Will it matter after the six hours of our event have come and gone?

Also, as a forty-year-old bride, any friends I’d ask advice of are too busy in their lives and my sisters have TOO many distinct ideas about what should be going on in my wedding!  The family  is so excited it’s intimidating; feels like a lot of expectations are building!

I’m glad to find this site and this board and to read about other first-timers who are the same generation as me.  Glad to be here!

Post # 49
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2013

this thread makes me happy 🙂

Post # 51
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@MrsTimmy:  Congrats. Everything looks beautiful.

Post # 52
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@MrsTimmy:  so?!? and…. we deserve a wedding just as much as a 20 year old ; )

and with all the experience we have in life its going to be awesome ill be 40 going on 41 when i go down the isle  what age.no shame in my game i deserve my wedding just like every girl does no matter what age. happy planning!!!!

Post # 53
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@MrsTimmy:  your only as old as you feel ; ) from the pics you look stunning

Post # 54
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@MrsTimmy:  Age ain’t nothing but a number – Congratulations! You look amazing!

Post # 55
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@MrsTimmy:  i will be 40 when we say IDo and i think im getting married at the best time of my life. im more ready for a husband and kids then ever before and as for our wedding its going to be a blast. i deserve to be in a beautiful white gown and marry the man of my dreams my best friend after all we have been thru. its my time 😉 and im going to fully enjoy planning our wedding any way i see fit reguardless of my age. its going to be a classy elegant intimate affare. and we all us women deserve our big day at any age. 

Post # 57
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I am marrying for the first time and admit that I have mixed emotions.  I am thrilled to be marrying my Fiance… and I am very pleased with the wedding that we have created. We have a wonderful life ahead of us.But I sometimes get sad that my life didn’t turn out the way that I thought it would (with kids).  I am not interested in having kids now – but the sadness that I didn’t get married younger so that I could have my own family does creep up on me at times.

I am sure it will go away in time.  SO Many friends as so happy for me- and that helps a great deal.

Post # 60
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Just got married on April 6th my first marriage at the age of 40.

 

 

Post # 61
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Newbee

@dcruz72:  Congratulations! I’ll be there next year.  First time bride at 43…

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