(Closed) Over 40 and TTC support thread.

posted 10 years ago in TTC
Post # 47
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@luvmyDwight:  Thank you so much for this thread! I have posted how hurtful comments about trying to conceive at older age are 9I suffered them myself!) and I think it is great to have a support group in you wonderful ladies! I am 39 (almost 40) and planning to start TTC right after the wedding!

I have heard a lot of advice to do TTC now! Better now than later they say…

But I am hoping that I will be blessed with a “little one” if that is meant to be.

To all ladies there trying I am here for you πŸ™‚

Post # 48
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1637 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@NewMrsAnderson:  Welcome!!!

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@foreignbride:  Welcome!!!

Nothing going on over here.  AF showed up a day early so now working on getting  appt w/ RE.

 

Post # 49
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280 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@NewMrsAnderson:  &

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@foreignbride:  Welcome…glad you joined us but hope your stays are short once you start TTC.

 

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@squeak35:  Hope your mini vacay was relaxing πŸ™‚ 

 

AF showed up right on cue for me, so bizare that there was a time that I loved her accuracy, now I hate it!  I guess it does save me from wasting money on HPTs.  I was truly hoping for a miracle baby this month, even though I thought pretty early in the cycle that this wasn’t it. 

I had my consult with my RE this morning.  I was not surprised by his recommendation, but I am not thrilled with it either.  I just so wanted this to happen for us naturally. It sucks that my age is the only factor.  The one thing I can’t change.  Yesterday driving home from work I started to cry because it dawned on me, really dawned on me, that I was 41…I have never acted or looked my age and so it was easy to not think of myself as older.  I know, I know age does not define us, but it is just so damn hard sometimes when all I am hearing is you have diminished ovarian reserve due to your age…it is like a neon sign flashing “OLD” in my face these days.   

I never thought in a million years it would be this emotionally draining and I often wonder if I should stop the torture…

On to cycle 15…

Post # 51
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@gingersnap25:  Iunderstand about realizing that your really the age that on your BC.  I don’t look it @ all so most ppl are shocked when I tell them.

So did your 3 day indicate DOR?  High FSH and low Antral count?  My first RE just knew I was DOR.  Well, current RE tested and my #s came back wonderful.  We’re hoping my uterine issues are now resolved.  Now I know that my window is closing so my RE has been very upfront w/ me.  But DH and I already decided that if we couldn’t birth our own, we would adopt. 

By The Way, on of my gf, who is our age as well, had both of her children via IVF.  Since she had MF issues, the 3 IUIs didn’t result in their take home baby but she became preggers via her first IVF and had embies to use for her first FET.  Her 2 children resulted from her first retriveal. 

2010 Sart results are available so check your RE #s.   Its an artform when dealing w/ us Ladies:)

Post # 52
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I need a money tree.  Have my appt for my office hystercopy and got the wonderful news of the my co-pay.  Luckily we’ve been saving but we could’ve take a two week all inclusive vacation to the Dominican Repulic.

Well, some good news.  DH’s SA came back good.  Some mobility issues but sperm washing will take care of that.  The vitamins and the diet change does help:)

Post # 53
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280 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@luvmyDwight:  &

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@squeak35:  Thanks, Ladies πŸ™‚

I have actaully had all testing done and I am definitely DOR πŸ™ 

I second you on the money tree…I just found out the cost of meds are for an IUI with injectibles and it isn’t pretty.  I am not sure where to go from here, but I am not giving up until every stone is unturned. 

Post # 55
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m back. We started MC on Thursday. Not to discourage you, because I’m focusing less on the MC and more on the fact that we got BFP naturally at 41. But we knew the MC% was high due to age. But we are feeling really good about our chances for a 2nd BFP.

Post # 56
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1954 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@KoiKove:  I’m sorry to hear that. But I think maintaining a positive attitude is key! You know that you can get pregnant. Sending good thoughts!

Post # 57
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1637 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@KoiKove:  I’m glad your remaining positive.  You will have your sticky baby soon.  I agree that half the battle is getting the sperm and egg to the same table. 

Well, Ladies.  We’re back from our vaca.  Had a wonderful time and already making plans for our next trip.  Our kiddies loved my nephew and can’t wait for him for another play weekend.  My nephew decided to use our Rottie as a pillow.  Too funny and cute. 

Post # 58
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84 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m so nervous.  Fiance is only 26, but I am 41.  He’s just so confident that we won’t have any problem, because I had a baby 18 years ago.  I’ve seen my OB/GYN and she said we definitely should get started right away when we’re married in September.  But it almost seems like that’s even waiting too long.

I’ve stopped taking BCP and I need to start tracking.  Is it ok to start tracking mid month, or should I just wait until the start of my next cycle?  Is TCOYF the best book to read to really educate myself on tracking?  Any other tips to figuring out of I’m ovulating?  I have a progesterone blood test scheduled in 1 week.

Post # 59
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49 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@KoiKove:  Lot’s of hugs for you :)!

I am glad you are positive and I am sure you will get pregnant again soon and come here to tell us!

I am not charting or anything… Should I start doingit??? Would you guys recommend fertilityfriend? I ahve seen that many bees use it…

Post # 60
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280 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@KoiKove:  I said this on the 6+ thread too, I am so very sorry.  I admore your strength and positivity and you are right, it happened once it can happen again!  I am completely rooting for you…and good luck with your move.

 

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@squeak35:  Welcome back from vacay…I am glad you had such a great time!

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@NewMrsAnderson:  I used TCOYF and found it to be really helpful when I was charting.  I did it for about 10 months or so, I stopped because my temp shift was so gradual that it drove me crazy.  I have used OPKs for the last three months and have found them to be much less stressful, for me, at least.  There is a great thread “Charter’s of the Hive” that you should check out…the ladies there really know there stuff.  Good Luck…

 

 

Post # 61
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@NewMrsAnderson:  I looked on the web and began using OPK’s, which was suggested by my RE.  I’ve always had ovulation pains as well as CM.  I can tell you when my hormones shift at this point.  I use My Days on my Droid for charting and its perfect.  I take my temp and input in my phone.  Don’t look @ it again unless I have to talk to my RE or AP. 

I do think you guys should start now.  I’m 42 and I wish I could’ve persuaded my DH to start earlier.  Oh well, more stir-up time for me:(.

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@foreignbride:  If you have the Droid, I would use My Days.  Its free and you can input everything.  I’ve been using it for a year with no problems.  I also used OPKs.  Since I know when I ovulate, I would begin testing 3 days before My Days indicated my surge.  I think I missed my surge once cause I actually forgot to POAS. 

Also test in the evening because you will catch your surge.  That way I didn’t have you use a ton of tests.  Plus, I’m cheap.  I rather buy some shoes than spend my $$$ on OPKs, Pregnancy Tests, etc.LOL

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