(Closed) Over 40 wedding events?

posted 6 years ago in 40 Something
Post # 4
1064 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Hello! Just turned 40 this month and suddenly i realize it seems it was a looooong time ago, with so many things happening.

No, i am not having a shower – not a tradition here and i am not having a bachorelette either as we already live as a couple so it doesn’t make sense to me.

Else, i am having the entire package πŸ™‚ Much to my mum’s surprise..she even asked IF i was getting a wedding dress! Ha!

Post # 5
4193 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

My shower was earlier in the month, and it was fantastic- mostly friends, with 4 family members/close family friends. Bachelorette party is next month, and we’re doing a pirate cruise and bar crawl.

Being 40 is NOT keeping from doing anything. Except- the stupid bouquet and garter toss-ugh! I have begrudingly done that at too many weddings- no way would I subject my single girlfriends to that! :)-

Post # 7
5075 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m 42 Fiance is 41.  This will be my second marriage.

I don’t want a shower (seems weird in my situation) or a bachelorette.  The maids are taking me out to lunch.

Fiance is definitely having a bachelor party.  His friends have waited YEARS for this Wink 

Post # 8
3886 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My bridesmaids are throwing me a semi-surprise co-ed shower. It would be a complete surprise if my MoH sister hadn’t spilled the beans; one of the other Bridesmaid or Best Man gave me a choice of 3 weekend days and asked me and my Mr to pick one and book it for her, and I figured she was going to take us to an event of some sort, wine tasting, food festival or something.  I honestly had not imagined they were planning a shower, and I actually did not really want a shower, but I’m perfectly ok with just a good old get-together, wherever it ends up being. We have asked them to kindly not call it a shower (that word just really does not sit well with either of us), and to please ask the guests to not bring gifts. 

I had never heard it called “Jack and Jill” till I started hanging out on this forum, and I doubt any of my friends have heard it called that.

For bachelorette (another name I hate, and Hen Night and Stagette are equally hated with me— chalk that up to my previous career as a bartender when “Bachelorette party” usually meant “really loud girls who  each order a different complicated drink, don’t tip well and have a tendancy to throw up somewhere”) there’s about a dozen of us driving to another city for a spa lunch, an afternoon of spa treatments, tapas dinner, then cocktails and an overnight in a hotel.  I doubt it will be a rockin’ night on the town because the hotel is not very close to this city’s downtown, and after the tapas we will only have a choice of Applebees or Chilis for “bars that stay open past 11” but I’m ok with that. We’ll just bring a couple bottles of wine if we need to extend the cocktail hours.

Post # 9
4429 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@GDub:  i will be just shy of 41 when we get married  in 2014 and its the first for me Fiance second marriage.

but he wants me and him to have it all ; ) showers, bachelor/bachelorette party looking for rings nice week honeymoon ; ) and we go wedding shopping all the time to pick up stuff.

im so ecited!!

last night i said i feel funny being a 40 year old bride.

and he said forget the 40 year old what are you? and i said a bride. he said just be that who cares about the age your a beautiful bride your my beautiful bride thats what matters. your beautiful and young! 40 is nothing. he made me feel so good.

he loves talking wedding talk but does not want to know any details of my dress, shoes, jewelry ect…. hes going to gasp when he sees me that day i cant wait!

Post # 11
4429 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@GDub:  aww thank you hes my best friend. i can tell him anything.

when is your date? and when did you get engaged?

i got engaged 2/3/2012 were getting married 2/22/2014

Post # 13
9955 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’m over 40, heck I’m over 50 !!

This will be my second marriage… first time was for 25 years, and although I loved my husband, I couldn’t save him from himself (alcoholism – abusive life etc).  Our divorce was horrible (broke my heart) and his passing at just over 50 devastating to our families.

My Hubby-2-Be has been the rock in my life for over 6 years now… I am very very fortunate to have found LOVE again.  And we both know it, and appreciate each other and what we have each and every day.

I am a giddy school girl IN LOVE.

We picked out THE RING this past weekend (see = http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/in-the-words-of-etta-james-at-last-my-love-has-come-along-the-ring )

And I cannot wait to be married (although I am beginning to realize that I have about 10 Million things to do BEFORE the big day, even though we are Eloping for a Destination Wedding around Christmas)

Lol, being a Bride now is really beginning to sink in… that and I’ve “caught” the fever I suppose.

What was going to be straight-forward and simple (just the 2 of us), has found me drooling over… Dresses – Accessories – Veils – Flowers – Limos – Cake – Photography – Decorations etc

So much choice… so little time !!

As a “mature” encore Bride, I don’t think there will be any Showers, Stag & Doe Parties, Bachelorettes etc… BUT I am excited to know we will be throwing some sort of Open House / Reception for our friends back home here after our Big Day

Lol, more things to plan for… Nibbles – Champagne – Cake – Music – Dancing etc.

Being a Bride again is AWESOME… truly think it is as much fun as I had over 30 Years ago when I was 23 and doing it the first time… and having WBee is fantastic, lots of other Brides to chat with, get ideas, etc.  WBee is very helpful & addictive.


Post # 15
9955 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

@GDub:  Yes some traditons that were very important first time round, have lost their charm to this mature Bride.

So NO Giving Away the Bride – NO Bridal Party – lol or even Guests (people keep asking if they can come, which is part of the reason we chose a Destination and Christmas Eve… to deter that)

NO Speaches – NO Bouquet Tossing – and (maybe) NO Garter (lol, I’m still reserving that as a “possiblity” for just me to tease my Fiance / then Hubby with)

Haven’t discounted Flowers (Brides Bouquet) – Photographs – a nice Dinner (local Hotel) – First Dance (if the Hotel has a piano player) – or even a Cake (maybe a small one for 2)

I’m going to go with the seperate the night before tradition, because I thought it was a highlight of my first marriage… that walk up to my Groom, and knocking his socks off in awe when he first saw me at the Wedding.

Can use the Wedding Morning AM to relax and have some alone time (SO and I are both semi-retired, so we don’t have much time apart in our real lives).  I’ll be savouring my girlieness… maybe get my hair done, makeup and sip champagne in my suite.

Should be fun.


Post # 16
812 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I’m 43, Fiance is 30. My second marriage, his first.

We’ve lived together over five years, so I’d feel silly having a shower.

Instead of a bachelorette party, my sisters, my daughter and I will probably just do a girls day, go to dinner and then either a ballgame or show. Fiance can have a bachelor party if he wants, but I doubt he will do anything more than go to dinner, have a few beers and then come home.

We are not smashing cake in each other’s faces.

I don’t know about the garter thing because we just haven’t discussed it.

I won’t be tossing my bouquet because it will be a brooch bouquet and would hurt. I guess I could make a small one from flowers and toss it, but like the garter, it hasn’t been discussed.

I filmed an episode of Say Yes to the Dress Atlanta ended up buying an amazing dress and only owe about $400 on it. I plan to have it paid off in the next two to three weeks so I won’t owe anything when it finally arrives.

We are having a back yard wedding, not because it’s trendy, but because it was my dream as a little girl to get married in my grandparent’s back yard. Plus it’s freaking cheap, so I can splurge in other places.

We’re having a photobooth.

We are having a bounce house for all of the kids.

Definitely doing a candy buffet.

Roasting a whole pig and having other food items.

Not sure if we’re going to have a cocktail hour or not.

Doing first look for sure.

We’re also having some yard games and a cake walk.

Renting an outside dance floor and hiring a DJ.


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