Over 45 pregnant?

posted 1 month ago in Pregnancy
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2017

tduck1 :  would any form of fertility help be available/possible for you? Hormone monitoring, testing, egg health help supplementing/hormonal supplements, etc. Also ivf with pgs/pgd testing for better chances of conceiving and carrying/maintaining a healthy pregnancy?

Post # 3
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Busy bee

tduck1 :  I’ve read that the majority of the trouble comes from the viability of the eggs.  An article I read recently said that most women over 45 end up using donor eggs if they hadn’t banked their own previously.  But there’s no reason not to try, especially with  ivf plus genetic screening to identify healthy embryos.  Personally, I would welcome donor eggs if that was the only way I could experience a pregnancy but not everyone would feel comfortable with that.  I hope you can find an option that works for you.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I think Cameron Diaz just had a baby, and she’s nearly 50. She probably has plenty of money for good doctors, but that doesn’t change the fact that she’s almost 50! 

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2017

obviousanonymous :  Im 99% sure Cameron and Benji used a surrogate. Another great option (but costly).

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - City, State

My husband’s friend gave birth this year to her first at 49. All went well. 

Post # 7
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Blushing bee

My great grandmother had her last baby at 45 so it’s possible!  However, I don’t think it’s the norm and it’s more common to get assistance at that age.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - California

I agree with PP who mentioned that if you are considering donor eggs it does sound like it would be much more likely to be possible than with your own eggs. Chances of success are heavily dependent on the quality of the embryo as opposed to the age of the woman at the time the embryo is transferred, from what I have read.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

tduck1 :  Is it possible? Yes. I know someone who randomly got pregnant with her first at 42, after years of NTNP and a few years of actively trying with no success. She gave birth to a healthy baby boy. However, your risk of miscarriage, difficult pregnancy, issues in pregnancy, and having a baby with disabilities is far higher. 

That doesn’t mean it’s not possible. You could look into surrogacy, donor eggs, adoption, and IVF to become a parent. I think the most important next step would be to talk to your doctor about your options. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

People do it all the time and if you have the resources and money nothing can stop you from pursuing it. As others have mentioned there is IVF, surrogacy, adoption, etc if you’d like to become a parent (at any age). 

I will say though that being the child of an older parent has its pros and cons. My mother had me at 42 and honestly I think that’s too old. There are pros and cons to having an older parent and right now I’m entering the con phase. I love my mother but her accumulating health issues that I need to help her care for while I’m just starting my own life has put a lot of my plans on hold for the immediate future. Yes many can have a full and healthy life without the usual aging issues but for my husband (who also has older parents with health issues) and myself that’s not the case. I wish it was and we could have more of our adult life to spend with them but as things look we probably won’t.

This is the risk you take with having a child later in life. But every pregnancy/birth is a roll of the dice for everyone involved. And everyone is SO different! So what do I really know other than my own experience. I wish you the best either way 🙂 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I have heard of plenty of people conceiving naturally after 45. Darling Husband and I are both 46 and haven’t given up hope for a sibling for our son. We won’t use any sort of assistant though so if it doesnt happen naturally then we will have na only child. There is no reason you can’t at least try although yes..difficult at our ages. best of luck! 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

I wish so very, very badly

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

tduck1 :  My sister just found out she is pregnant and she is 42. Because of her age she is considered high risk and has to do more check ups then i did when I was pregnant. So far things have been going somewhat well for her. She is not in as good of spirits as I thought she would be for wanting a baby all these years but it may be because of the changes in her body she maybe didn’t know would happen, horomones, and everything that goes with pregnancy. I think being classified as “high risk” because of her age is also something that is worrying her. 

I wouldn’t rule it out entirely if it’s something you want, but just know there will be a lot your body will go through. It could be a longer recovery, and the risks of what could happen to the baby and their development past 40. If you are prepared for all of that then don’t lose hope. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - City, State

Kendrao :  Well “Advanced Maternal Age” starts at 35, so she’s not alone there!

My sister in law just had a healthy pregnancy and baby at 42, and my Mother-In-Law had her youngest just shy of 45.

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