(Closed) Over being a Bridesmaid- Shower Drama

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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2603 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Oh god, I would be PISSED at the loss of my time!

But the good news is that you can let them plan everything if that’s what they want to do–although in the interest of being a good friend, you should offer to do some of the more perfunctory duties that don’t take that much time–be there early on the day-of to help set up, stay late to help clean-up, maybe help with invitations or something. 

 

Post # 5
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424 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

“Dear bride,

I’m sorry that the plans I made for the shower aren’t what you hoped for.  Unfortunately, it is all I can offer with my current finances.  If these plans don’t work, I will be happy to attend your shower as a guest.

Love,

MOH”

You’re right to be mad.  She’s wrong.  You have given her a shower as a gift.  She shouldn’t make demands for it.  I would tell them to eff themselves and host their own shower.

 

 

Post # 6
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1414 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Oh my word…..I would be so angry and SAD if I was treated this way.

Post # 7
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3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I say speak to her with no one around. Tell her with your wedding kicking into highgear you don’t have the time or money to plan another shower. Then tell her this is the easiest option for you, but if for whatever reason she doesn’t liket it or it doesn’t work for her, then perhaps broke bm and mom should take over the planning of the party. Do it when you are calm and collected. It’ sounds like you guys are good friends, and this isn’t a case of her being a bridezilla as the main issue seems to be with broke bm, no money and high taste.

Post # 10
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1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@mrsc630:  I say at this point save your sanity and let them plan the shower. Tell the other Bridesmaid or Best Man to keep the costs reasonable as your are still planning your own wedding. Let them mess up. You had everything great and know they want to take over with the Bride’s permission.

Post # 12
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412 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@mrsc630:  You sound a lot like me honestly- you like to plan things, and if things are in shambles, even if it’s not your fault, you’ll pick them up because you want things to go well.  I totally get it.  Honestly though, at this point, I really think you need to wash your hands of this shower and make it known to your Maid/Matron of Honor that you have nothing to do with the planning so that when it doesn’t work out she only has the other Bridesmaid or Best Man to blame.  YOu have your own wedding coming up, your Maid/Matron of Honor didn’t help with your shower, and she’s told you to just let the Bridesmaid or Best Man plan hers.  I know it’s super hard, but I say you just let it go and let her deal with the consequences if/when it’s messed up

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@mrsc630:  Have you told the bride your worries? That you do not want to be rushed after your honeymoon because you fear the other Bridesmaid or Best Man will be unable to do anything?

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