Over cautious?

posted 1 month ago in Pets
  • poll: Get the echocardiogram
    yes : (5 votes)
    14 %
    no : (30 votes)
    86 %
  • Post # 31
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    1032 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2019

    Take the money and get cookie trained because it’s the right thing to do for a defenseless animal, it doesn’t matter that he’s not “yours”. Just be a good person to this poor animal and help it have a better life. If you have the money for the procedure, you have the couple hundred for training. 

    mine and yours doesn’t work in a marriage, especially with living beings. 

    Post # 32
    Member
    279 posts
    Helper bee

    kaitlyn8298 :  No, you would be happier if the dog was with the in-laws. The only reason the dog might be happier is because of the unhappiness you are causing it.

    Post # 35
    Member
    725 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2020

    FH and I had a 9 month old kitten pass away for no apparent reason. Not trying to scare you, just providing some perspective. We went through a ridiculous amount of grief and guilt and shame and “what if,” but that’s all a normal part of the grieving process. My point is, I’d get the echocardiogram if ALL the following applies:

    -you can comfortably afford it (I’d also budget for paying for at least half of Cookie’s training, since that problem still needs to be addressed

    -it won’t cause the dog an undue amount of stress that outweighs the benefits of the exam (try to avoid poking and prodding your dog just for your own ease of mind)

    -the results are reasonably accurate, and you have educated yourself about the possibility of false positives

    -early detection of any potential issues are actually treatable and will make a difference

    That being said, I think you should not combine your finances completely with your fiance. He won’t even pitch in to train an aggressive/anxious/scared dog, what do you think he’d think of an electrocardiogram?? He is a bare minimum, even neglectful, pet owner, and you’re an all out dog mom (for the dogs you actually like). Do you think you’re actually compatible? 

    I’d create a small joint account with your fiance for joint expenses and anything that’s just for you or he doesn’t agree with can come out of your separate account. 

    That being said, I still don’t think you should marry your fiance unless he changes his shitty attitude about Cookie and the treatment of pets in general. You also need to recognize that Cookie and your fiance are a package deal and there will be no more “his dog, my dog” anymore. You both need to change your attitudes but his is much shittier. Shitty enough for me to tell you AGAIN: reevaluate your relationship. If your fiance is willing to make amends, make sure he is sincere. Be prepared to dodge that bullet. Please.

    Good luck.

    Post # 37
    Member
    4342 posts
    Honey bee

    Ivercautious and undercaring. Great combination.

    Post # 38
    Member
    105 posts
    Blushing bee

    I vote no to the test. What are you going to do if the results are bad and he needs surgery? Are you going to get the $2000 surgery if they say he needs it? Those things aren’t a guaranteed success and he could pass away. The main reason I say no to the test is if he is not experiencing symptoms now then he will most likely be okay, at least for now.

    I fostered a kitten from 5 weeks old to 12 weeks old for my local shelter and it turned out she had a heart murmur, grade 4 out of 5 which is serious. She had rapid breathing but was otherwise seemed okay. The shelter said she would need $8000 surgery to possibly repair but they weren’t going to spend that on a kitten. I was very sad because I became attached to her. I already adopted her brother and wanted to adopt her too. The shelter told me she will just stay in foster with me and try to make her comfortable for as long as she has.

    One day she made these loud gasps and I became worried so I told the shelter. They said I can bring her to the vet, and I thought she could just get some medication or treatment. Instead once I’m there the shelter tells me they authorized her to be euthanized. I was shocked…I had to stop the vet staff and say my goodbye because they were going to do it right away without telling me, the lowly foster mom. I paid for her cremation myself so I could get her ashes back…

    Anyway, I’ve seen with two recent puppies with heart murmurs, the shelter paid $2000 for their surgery. One is doing okay after the surgery. The other puppy passed away during the surgery because the hole in her heart was too big. Sad sad… 

    Personally I just wouldn’t do the test unless experiencing real symptoms.

    Post # 40
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    221 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2016

    I also have a boxer , he is 1.5 years old , he is our love and I would do anything for him, I would get the test done in a heartbeat, and if there is a diagnosis would find the help he need. Boxers are so loving dogs , people don’t get it until they have one.

    Post # 41
    Member
    201 posts
    Helper bee

    Spare some of your cash for the other dog, too, please. Perhaps if you stopped neglecting Cookie, bees would be more sympathetic but you sound like a rather cruel dog parent on your other thread.

    Post # 44
    Member
    2908 posts
    Sugar bee

    I have actually tried to answer your posts with legitimate responses and i haven’t been snarky at all, but you are telling me that your friend’s dog just died from exactly what you are trying to convince us that your puppy might die of if you don’t get this test?  You realize how unbelievable that sounds, right?  Just seems like very convenient timing…

    Go get the test because it’s obviously important to you to know what’s going on.  If you find out that the puppy has a serious condition, would you return the dog to the breeder and get a refund?    

    I am no stranger to the expenses of a dog and I just paid out thousands of dollars for a tiny fracture and almost had to amputate her toe (luckily it healed!!)…and that was with insurance!

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