(Closed) Over did the guest list…

posted 10 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
7573 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@AleciaMcD:  So some guests would have a seat at a table and some would be forced to stand at hightop table and eat a sit downmeal at that?

I would be pretty peved if I was one of the standing guests especially if I also had to stand through your ceremony!

Post # 4
347 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I went to a wedding where there weren’t enough seats for everyone.  It was really awkward.  They had a few hightop tables but it was difficult to eat your dinner around a tiny table with 6 of your friends.  And it wasn’t clear who should sit where so people sort of just wandered.

Post # 5
2063 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Well, you do what you have to do.

If you can make your ceremony 15-20 minutes, then consider having it ALL standing, with exception to the elderly and disabled. People don’t necessarily LOVE standing, but they can do it for 15 minutes. If you’re committed to a mass then, it’s going to be more of an issue, I hate to say.

I wouldn’t recommend serving a full dinner wtih hightops, but hightops with appetizers is a normal thing, and you’d just need a few seating options for the elderly and disabled (maybe a.  lounge area is the ticket, which you say that you have). However, in that case, make sure that the hightops are the DOMINANT seating option, not secondary–otherwise people will feel slighted if they are without a chair.

The only issue that I DO forsee is that your appetizers will have to be heavy because usually guests will be expecting a meal unless they’re told otherwise (like “cake and punch” or something, in which case, they’re aware that they should plan to eat on their own outside of your wedding). So you’ll have to be careful to ensure there’s enough food!

Post # 6
831 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Iis there any way you can make room? I’m sorry, but it is really rude to not have a seat for every person. As brides it is our responsibility to make sure there is enough room for 100% of those we invite.

Post # 7
771 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I really think you need to find seats for everyone, at least for dinner. I agree with PPs who said that it’s rude to not have a seat for every person. Some people may be travelling from far away, possibly buying new clothes, paying for accomodations, giving you a gift etc etc. You really need to at least have a seat for them to sit in to eat! I was watching Four Weddings Canada the other day and the one bride didn’t have enough seats. The people who had to stand to eat looked really uncomfortable! Also, I tend to wear heels to weddings and I personally would be PISSED if I couldn’t sit down and rest my feet when I want. Hell, even in flats I wouldn’t want to stand for an entire reception or meal!

Post # 9
39 posts
  • Wedding: September 2013

i think switching to an h’orderves/ cocktail reception is likely your best bet. You’ll probably want to find a way to share this with all of the guests before they come so that they may know to eat before or after because little bites arent going to fill everyone up 🙂


Another question. Is the space you booked including a dance floor? If it is, is it possible to put tables there, at least throughout dinner? You could eliminate the dance floor for the night if it is not a big deal for you, or you could remove the tables after dinner is done! 



Post # 10
1835 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@AleciaMcD:  The hive is big on tough love on honest opinions. Take another look at the posts, you have some good suggestions here.

Post # 11
399 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I agree with the idea of an h’orverves menu.  I prefer those anyway because you get to try a lot of different things.  I am doing this at my wedding so I may be biased 😉  I don’t think you have to tell them to eat something before they come though.  If you plan correctly with enough meats and heavy foods, they will be stuffed by the time you finish!  At my tasting, I could barely get through everything we tasted and I was not eating the whole portion of each app.

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