- 7 years ago
- Wedding: August 2011
We’re planning a small and intimate destination wedding at the end of August. Or at least it started out that way. Our big reasons for a destination wedding was:
1. it would be a great chance for our families to get together (mine live in Hawaii, his live near us in NJ)
2. it would be low-key, low-stress. Ideally a family vacation where we just happen to get married
3. Keeping it small and intimate would hopefullly keep the cost down since we’re trying to buy a house sometime soon.
Sounds great right? Big fun, low stress right? On my guest list is my immediate family and my best girlfriend, on his is his immediate family, a close cousin, and 2 best friends. Since my immediate family is huge, and his immediate family is the exact opposite the guests lists are roughly the same on both size. 30 people. Total.
But now (bless him) he’s taken it upon himself to spread the good word high and low and has started telling co-workers, and all of our couple friends (friends that are couples?). His reasoning was that he’s super excited and wants to spread the goods news and that he didn’t think everyone would actually go. Great intentions, wrong tact. Because guess what buddy? They’re all coming!
Somehow our small, intimate destination wedding has turned into a four ring circus.
Don’t get me wrong, I would absolutely LOVE to have all of our friends and loved ones there but we are in no position to afford a vacation, save for a house, and pay for a big venue at this moment.
How do I stop this madness? We’ve talked and I think he understands that he can tell people but not invite them (we’re having a casual reception at home later in the year). Am I bad person because ‘un-inviting’ people crossed my mind?
Sorry for the uber-long post. But I needed to vent. Feel much better now 🙂