(Closed) Over half of the guest list declined, is this normal?

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 91
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316 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

My wedding is also over memorial day weekend – we sent out invites to 206 people and so far have 17 total declines (all from out of town). A few people I never thought would come from out of town have RSVP’d yes and I’m thrilled! So far, we have 85 confirmed guests, and have ~100 to hear back from. They have another month before we start calling and bugging them for their RSVPs. 

I honestly would LOVE a smaller wedding because they we can spend more time with all of our guests! Also… if we have say 160 people, then we can add back in a few more food choices or appetizers and things. If we have 200, we have to limit the options because we can’t afford it. 🙂

Post # 92
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6515 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

 

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Rubbs:  we are not “ganging” up on you. relax. we are voicing our opinion about your reaction to never speak to your guests again because they didn’t come to your wedding. Maybe they had another event to go to that they are already commited to. Maybe they couldn’t afford to come. There are so many reasons, and whoever did not come to my wedding, I certainly didn’t cut them out of my life. Its immature to do that.

I would have only cut people out of my life if they RSVP’d yes and then didn’t show, thats a whole other topic. And the only way to excuse a no-show, is if there was a death, or a terrible emergency.

 

Post # 93
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8467 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

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Daizy914:  I understand; however there are reasons I did what I did. There’s so much more to the story, & while I can see how I’m being judged, I didn’t take it too we’ll that I should be okay with it. Nobody on here knows me or the entire situation. 

Trust me, I’m not as bitchy as I come across. I’ve just grown some thick skin throughout the years. 

Post # 94
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6515 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

 

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Rubbs:  I apologize to you if you think I am judging you. I don’t mean to come off like that.

Everyone’s situation is different. For me, I knew the people genuinely couldn’t make it because they told me very early on (when they received the STD) that they were going to be away, or its too hard for them to travel (I have an older aunt in VA and I live in NY-for her to sit in a car for 8 hours-its a bit much-and I understand).

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