- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
So I have been a long-time lurking bee, but have recently just started replying and posting. I typically look to the boards for advice and comfort that there are people in similar situations. This however, is just a post for me to VENT my frustrations. Sorry it may be a little long.
Basically, I am highly annoyed and upset that my sister is literally COPYING my entire wedding. Now I know what you are thinking… I should be flattered, right? WRONG. Flattering would be that she came to me and told me she really enjoyed my wedding and asked if I would mind if she did a, b, or c too. To give a little background, my sister and I have NEVER gotten along. She is always trying to compete and always saying rude, vicious, ignorant comments to me. The kicker is that she did nothing but bitch about my wedding when I was planning, saying what a waste of money that is, that my dress was ugly and not something she would ever think of wearing, that everything I was doing was a waste of time. Well, ironically, she has purchased her engagement ring/wedding bands from the same custom jeweler (without going anywhere else to look) after she flat out told her fiance IN FRONT OF ME that her ring must be BIGGER and prettier than mine… who says that?? She has booked her wedding for 5 days after after the date I had in September (different year tho) and is having her reception at the same venue, with the same food choices and all. She purchased a heavily beaded dress (according to her something she would never be caught dead in) by the same designer and the exact same collection as mine. She hired the same videographer, DJ, florist, and photographer. She made a point to tell the photographer she wanted the same locations for pictures as me, but wanted MORE and better than what I had. She is having the same colors as me, as well. She wanted to use the same crystal manazita centerpiece that took me days to create too. Everything is literally the same. Now I recognize that it is OK to have similar things, the same venue, vendors, etc., but it is the way she went about it that is upsetting. She has said several times that her wedding MUST be of the same quality if not better than mine. It is like she chose the same of everything so she could have perfect way to compare everything. It is also hurtful because I put my heart and soul into planning my wedding. I spent so many hours looking for vendors and interviewing photographers and I did it all so I could feel that I had a truly unique wedding. The wedding that took me years to plan, she planned in 2 months by just stealing everything. Though I know my wedding is still special, it does hurt that it feels like I couldn’t even have one day that was uniquely my own. This, in addition to the fact that she has said mean things about my husband, the fact that we don’t have as much money as them, about my looks and weight, and about our lifestyle, is sincerely hurtful. I actually helped her at the beginning of her planning, thinking maybe this is something we could finally bond over, but after she got all of the info from me she went back to her old ways of ignoring me and making rude, nasty comments.
I know many of you probably think, just get over it, you only have one day, just be flattered, but I am not looking for those types of responses. I just wanted to vent and know that there are some others that would feel the same way I do, which is hurt. I will get over this and I will always feel that my wedding was special because it was my husband and I, but for now I am just pissed that my own sister feels the need to be so crude and cruel. I am OK with the fact that things are the same or similar, but it is the comments about making sure it is BETTER than mine that is hurtful.