(Closed) Overreacting about bachelor party??

posted 1 year ago in Parties
  • poll: Is the brides feelings of disrespect wrong?

    No, I would feel the same way

    Yes, boys will be boys

    No, but she did overreact

    Yes, but most brides do about bachelor parties

  • Post # 124
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    “I stand by MY opinon, that she ruined his bachelor party by blowing up his phone, going on facebook and texting the group – thats how I feel her FH and his friends will see it as well, period. That is not to say it is or that it is not okay for him to have a hooker. She should have waited and communicated her frustration and distrust with him after he came back from his trip.”

    Just trying to understand. So it was wrong of OP’s Fiance to let his friends hire prostitutes/strippers in Cancun and do god knows what with them, and the OP’s anger was legitimate. However, she was wrong to ruin his good time with the ladies by confronting him while he was hanging out with them. Is that right? So if your best friend told you that her husband was cheating on her while on vacation for his birthday, you would tell her to leave the marriage, but to wait to confront him until he was back because it would be wrong to ruin his cheating fun on his birthday?

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    Helper bee

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    mimivac :  Thank you for summarizing. That was my question! OP was wrong because she made a big stink, looked like a crazy person, and ruined her fiancés good time while he was cheating on, and lying to her?

    Post # 126
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

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    mimivac :  No. The WAY she handled it was wrong. I feel she could have spoken to him in a way that would have been more productive. I don’t think she should have addressed it to his friends.

    She could have spoken to him while he was there and addressed the issue, but she called multiple times and contacted people other than her FH. I felt she added drama to an already big fire. I feel like a broken record at this point. 

    I would have handled it differently. When someone wrongs me I make sure I am not at fault in any way, that’s just me. 

    Post # 127
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2020 - Hampton, VA

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    caitlinbee :  man I’m not one for the whole ganging up on someone over the internet but come on. There is no way you know how you would handle finding out your SO was cheating on you and/or betraying you while in a room full of naked women in another country. NO freaking way. 

    Just stop trying to judge her for her actions. My god.

    Post # 128
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2019

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    caitlinbee :  I would give up if I were you, people love to read the worst into what others are saying and run with it. 

    Post # 129
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2018

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    caitlinbee :  Fine, let’s pretend everyone can agree with you that she ruined his party. She probably DID ruin his party. The question that actually matters is: SO WHAT? Who cares if she ruined it? He kinda lost the right to have an un-ruined bachelor party by doing what he did. I think that fact is why people are harping on your perspective here; you seem to be missing the forest for the trees. 

    Post # 130
    Bee
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    Helper bee

    This whole thing is such a dumpster fire but I am just in awe that

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    caitlinbee is actually standing by her thesis statement of “she ruined his bachelor party.”

    No. Her mishandling of the situation does not overshadow what her FH did–the only way this would be true is through OP’s FH’s gaslighting attempts. You’re basically saying “Ughhhh OP you gave him ammo to gaslight you! Why would you do that???” If he’s gonna gaslight, he’s gonna gaslight. She admitted she mishandled it and the bees agreed. That’s not what’s important here.

    Post # 131
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    Buzzing bee

    I can’t help but think of the song “It’s my Party” by Lesley Gore while reading this thread. 

    “It’s my (bachelor) party and I’ll (lie) if I want to….”

    ……”you would (drunkenly-call-off-your-wedding) too (caitlinbee) if it happened to you”

    “Nobody knows where my Johnny has gone (to Mexico to eff some hookers)…..”

    Im sorry I couldn’t help myself

     

    Post # 132
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

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    pearfectprincess :  Thank you, bee. I’m going to take your advice on this one. I’m in disbelief quite frankly. 

    Post # 133
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2019

    Well said. 

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    californiasun :  

    Post # 134
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2018

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    caitlinbee :  Sorry, you’re in disbelief of what? That people don’t maintain her ruining of his party as worse than his lies and possible cheating? Which one is worse? Him doing something shitty to their relationship, or her getting pissed that he did something shitty? Unless she actually MURDERED him for it, what she did isn’t worse than what he did. 

    Post # 135
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2019

    All this infighting on a thread with a relatively inactive OP. Can’t we all just be friends?

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    Post # 136
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: City, State

    YOU DONT EVEN GO HERE 

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    sbl99 :  

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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2019

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    slomotion :  FINE I WANT MY PINK SHIRT BACK

    Post # 138
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

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    obviousanonymous :  Wow. That’s not what I meant and not what I said. I don’t know if that’s the tone that you use in your home when you disagree, or if it’s just the tone I’m sensing while reading your comment, but I won’t put up with it. I also didn’t “murder” anyone so please get on with your life. It’s OKAY to disagree with one another, it’s not the end of the world, everything will be just fine.

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