(Closed) Over-reacting over no show… =(

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 32
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Bumble bee

I would propose coffee as an alternative instead, which allows for a faster exit. When you sit down I would just tell her “That was the lamest excuse I’ve ever heard, was something else going on?”. Maybe her and her husband had a blow-out fight over the business that morning and they ended up skipping, who knows. Basically I would give her a chance to apologize for both her absence and her lame excuse, and walk out if it isn’t up to snuff. 

Post # 33
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Busy Beekeeper

Just do a fade to black on that “friendship”. That was a crazy excuse. 

Post # 34
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Busy Beekeeper

@techprincesse:  That is the WEAKEST excuse ever!  

Is she usually a flake?  People are strange and she obviously did not know how important your wedding was or that you considered her as close of a friend as you did.  Consider her actions to be a painful notice of the importance of your friendship to her and respond accordingly.

Post # 35
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

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@BlondeBee:  I like you’re immature way to handle it better than your “mature” suggestion!! lol.

 

Seriously, some poeple.

Post # 36
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@Bazinga:  BAHAHAHAHAA I agree with other ladies – best.response.ever

Post # 37
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Tell her you’ll go to dinner only if she wears that dress she got!

I LOLed when I read that.  Sorry.  Donno what goes through people’s heads when they make up excuses.

So sorry you lost a friend, people are odd

Post # 38
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@techprincesse:  That has got to be the stupidest excuse I have ever heard for something. Heh, I say go out for a free dinner, keep things shallow and cordial, and then stop getting in touch with her.

Post # 39
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

At first I was like, “Ok, so the chick didn’t show up. Who the hell cares?” BUT then you said her excuse was becuase her dress wouldn’t fit at the table and I was like, What?! That is a dumbest excuse I’ve ever heard.

I like @Bazinga:  and @Atalanta: ‘s ideas 🙂

Post # 40
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1602 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

lolwut? No way. I would tell her ‘pics – or it didn’t happen’. We need to see this dress of epic proportions.

Post # 42
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Um, no. You are not over-reacting. She is a poor friend, and that is unfortunate! Who wouldn’t want to come celebrate at a friend’s wedding!? I think that if she wants to reach out to you and be a proper friend, that’s her choice, but don’t waste any more of your time on it! Instead, enjoy being a newlywed!

Post # 43
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

wow she’s precious isn’t she…

drop her, she at least owed you the truth as to why she didn’t show…but you’ll never get it from her now.  Move on, life is too short to chase idiots  😉

 

Post # 44
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@techprincesse:  Lamest.  Excuse.  Ever.  If your dress is some sort of massive Scarlett O’Hara gown, why not WEAR SOMETHING ELSE!?  Why did she even buy it if it was so horrendously big?  Honestly.  She obviously cherishes her vanity more than seeing someone she SUPPOSEDLY cares about on the most important day of their lives.  And the fact that she went to Vegas and partied it up right after just makes it seem like your wedding was too in-the-way of her trip planning.  Friendship is a give and take, she can’t just call you up to have a girl-gab when it’s convenient for her.
You deserve better friends and it seems you have them in the people who rearranged their schedules and took the time to at least CALL you on your day if they couldn’t make it. 
Congrats on your wedding and trust me, looking back, you’ll be glad this so-called “friend” isn’t in any of your pictures!!!

Post # 45
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Sugar bee

No you’re not over reacting.  That has got to be the lamest excuse I’ve ever heard. 

Post # 46
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@techprincesse:  Her dress wouldn’t fit at the table? Did she have an elephant attached to the skirt?! Or was it some slinky and totally inappropriate dress? I’d take her up on dinner (hey, free dinner!). See what kind of lame excuse she has for not going. Who knows, maybe she’s just jealous or something. I’d hear her out at least at dinner, and then go from there. Besides, who turns down dinner?

If she continues to be a flake, de-friend, delete and de-stress yourself about her. Maybe explain that since she had seemed so into the wedding, you were certain she would be there, and you’re hurt that she couldn’t even be bothered to be truthful about attending. Good luck with her.

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