Post # 1
A couple of months ago my fiancee started talking about his bachelor party with his brother. His brother mentioned going to Vegas. I immediately thought it was a bit much to ask people to spend that much and go that far (we live on the east coast). My fiancee agreed and squashed that plan.
Now they are talking about going on a two night fishing trip. People would have to take off two days from work, drive 3 hours to where the boat is docked and it would cost $350. That $350 is not including food and drinks, so my fiancee and his brother have suggested using the money from his stag. I know my fiancee would love to take this trip with his friends and family, but I just have a feeling alot of people will say no. Plus if the guys can’t cover it themselves and you have to dip into the stag money, then I feel like you’re asking too much.
Is it not my place to express my concerns to him? Do I just zip it and let him do what he wants?
Post # 4
It’s his night with his friends. Don’t sweat it.
Post # 5
If people can’t afford to go then they won’t. Don’t worry about it. It’s his bachelor party and he shouldn’t be able to go on a fishing trip if he wants to.
Post # 6
Well it’s his friends and members of both of our family. I know alot of guys in my family that would love to celebrate with him, but they won’t be able to go fishing for two days.
Post # 7
I think it sounds fun! Not my thing, but if he likes being outdoorsy and fishing, I think he’ll have a great mini-vacation. I know a lot of my guy friends would KILL for a bachelor party like that. Plus you won’t have to stress about strippers 🙂 Think about it this way. 90% of the wedding is for us. Our dresses cost FAR more than a tux or suit, we spend so much money on the things that they overwhelmingly don’t care about (flowers), so let him enjoy his part of things!
Post # 8
It’s his party. Let him figure it out. Maybe he can ask around and see what the other guys think.
Post # 9
@oneofthesethings: +1 WTH is stag $$?
Also, I’ve been having to reel in my Fiance over and over again. Throughout the planning process, he has wanted to do everything so over-the-top, including the bach party. I get it, he loves his friends and wants to do epic fun things with them, but it’s not always realistic for the budget and he gets that after I bring it up to him.
Post # 10
I would just keep quiet. If that’s what he wants to do for his bachelor party, it sounds pretty tame, and it will make him happy.
If he determines that a lot of people won;t be able to make it based on funds, he may very well change his mind anyways!
Post # 11
+1. if he’d love it he’d love it. if its only a few of them, its only a few of them. no biggie.
Post # 12
Sounds like fun to me! $350 isn’t nearly as much as some people spend (Vegas etc) Let him deal with it, I’m sure you have a million other things to worry about.
Post # 13
Well it’s a chartered boat so if he doesn’t have enough people, it won’t happen anyway.
Post # 14
I still don’t know what stag money is, but just let it go and let him do what he wants. If his friends are anything like my H and his friends, they’re VERY frank with each other. If someone didn’t want to go or spend the money, they’d just be like “fuck no, man. I’m out. Catch you later for a drink.” LOL
Post # 15
@Ali-oop: That is exactly what my Fiance and his friends are doing! They are driving to the Mississippi river and renting one of those house boats all weekend. Fishing and drinking on a house boat on a river…sounds pretty dangerous to me! I don’t like it, but to me, it’s better than any alternative… I just let him know my concerns and I moved on.
Post # 16
A stag is a party for the groom where people buy a ticket and sometimes buy raffle tickets for donated gifts. The money goes to the groom.