(Closed) Overcome by anger about my husband's accident.

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 32
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1070 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Macintosh:  I am so sorry for what you are going through.  My dad was in a very severe motorcycle accident, he broke 54 bones and he was in a coma for 6 days.  The doctors said there was no hope, he would mostly likely have severe brain damage and never walk again.  The recovery process was VERY long and hard but he is now 55, healthy, an engineer, and runs a 7 minute mile.  These next years will be hard but NEVER give up hope.  I will be praying for you and justin.

Post # 33
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438 posts
Helper bee

Firstly I am so happy that your husband opened his eyes and sqeezed your hand that is such hopeful news!

And you have ever right to be fuming over what has happened, it’s terrible and I wish you were not going through all this pain <3 You have uss all here for you whenever you need uss and I’m so sorry your friends are not giving you both any support thats awful!

<3 xxx

Post # 34
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

All of these feelings of anger are justified, and expected.  In time, the anger will lessen and you and Justin will move past it, but it’ll never be forgotten, and you’ll always have a twinge of anger when something reminds you of this horrible, horrible experience.  This is a truly devastating experience.  I’m so sorry your friends haven’t been able to be there with you.  I just wish there was something I could do, other than hope and pray for the best possible outcome. 

Post # 35
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11134 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Anyone would be furious.  Your right to be angry is absolute.  Perhaps it’s time to talk to someone more expert than us Bees.  Well, some Bees really are experts, but they aren’t there.

The hospital social worker should have contacted you.  They are trained to deal with exactly what you are feeling.  I hope you find one who is a good fit for you.

 

 

 

 

Post # 37
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5920 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

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@Macintosh:  Was the person who hit him uninsured? If so his insurance should be primary, with your U coverage as excess. You should be able to get his entire limits for Justin. 

Post # 38
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4787 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@Macintosh:  Feel free to come here and rant/vent/rage all you want.  This isn’t fair to you or Justin, and you have every right to be angry.

It sounds like you are taking steps to take care of yourself, too, which is so good to know. 

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@tiedtogetherwithasmile:  I googled this. There’s a lot of online sites, but I have no idea which ones are trustworthy. Anyone know more about raising money?

Post # 39
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I am so sorry that you are feeling this way. You have every right to be and I hope that the jerk that caused this accident pays.

But I am also thankful that Justin is still alive and he was able to squeeze your hand. We are all here for you and praying that he makes a full recovery.

Post # 40
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18628 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m so sorry but I’m glad that he is improving.

Has your lawyer looked into going after the other motorist for the rest of the money?

Post # 41
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1652 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

HUGS to you honey. What you’re feeling is completely normal x

Post # 42
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11735 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Macintosh:  

I’m so sorry you are going through this. Life really sucks and is totally unfair sometimes.  Anger is completely normal, so be as angry as you’d like!  I know there isn’t a whole lot anyone can do to ease your pain but know that I’m thinking of you and your husband and keeping him in my thoughts, wishing him a speedy and full recovery.  Sending lots of love, hugs and support your way. xoxo

Post # 43
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2467 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would be angry too! It’s so good that you have legal representation and have a reference for  someone to talk to, it’s so important to keep taking care of yourself during this ordeal as well as being there for Justin. as for your friends, it sucks that they haven’t been there. Maybe they don’t know if they’d be in the way if they came? feel free to reach out to them, or to call them out for not being there (like, “wtf, i need your support”)

Post # 44
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11231 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m so sorry, Mac. Please know that we love you here and we’re all thinking of you. You have every right to be angry–drivers have a responsibility to be SAFE on the road, for themselves and others.

Post # 45
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9877 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m sorry I’m not sure I know the entire story – but the insurance for the person who hit him should be the one paying the bills. If they don’t have insurance you could probably sue them for the damages as well (and honestly I hate how sue happy everyone is these days, but I think you have a legitimate reason here obviously!).

Post # 46
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501 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

hi,

i am still so sorry for your pain. but i am so so glad to hear that he has not passed away. that is wonderful news. i hope that more and more of your prayers for Justin will be answered.

anger makes total sense. i’m sure this experience is just beyond painful.  i’m glad you are looking into therapy/counseling. not because there is anything wrong with you, but because there is something horribly wrong with this awful situation.

and i second what someone said before about reaching out to friends. they may think that you ‘need space’ or they don’t want to bother you by calling you.

one of my closest friends in the world had a near-death experience and for the first week in retrospect i was an AWFUL friend.  i was thinking of her and praying for her every single day. I was just too afraid to ‘bother’ her in the hospital!  but little did I know she was very open to having company and calls. so. . . you definitely shouldn’t have to be the one to reach out. but if you do, you may be pleasantly surprised at the response.

sending love and prayers your way.

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