- 8 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011
OK, for starters, this is my second post as it appears that my first post on this topic got lost in cyber space but I really want to help any of you out there that are having feelings of regret over your dress with some stories of people that were in your shoes that overcame the regret.
My dress was the first dress I tried on at the first store I ever looked for dresses in. I’d never seen wedding dresses (aside from the ones I’ve seen people wearing at their weddings) before and I was completely overwhelmed and had no idea where to start. The one that I bought, the Essense of Australia D1108, was stunning, no doubt. I loved it. In fact, I remember thinking that I could not imagine loving any dress more than that dress. Well, the dress was only visiting on a trunk show and would be leaving the next day. Furthermore, if I purchased it same day, I’d get 20% off. Lastly, the store would NOT allow me to take any pictures until the dress was mine. The pressure had mounted and I caved. I bought it (well, my mom did) and I felt pretty good about it…until the next day.
The next day, the panic set in. Had I made the right decision? Had I looked at enough gowns? Should I have tried on different styles? The panic lasted right through the 3 months it took for my dress to arrive at the store. When the dress arrived, my panic turned to excitement. I rushed to the store to put my wedding gown on and put all my anxiety to rest.
When I put on my gown, instead of my anxiety dissipating, it felt worse. I didn’t like my dress. Actually, I hated my dress. I didn’t like the color, the length, the style. I couldn’t wait to leave the store so I could go home and cry in private.
My mom tried to console me and told me that she’d get me a new dress if I wanted it. But I didn’t want a new dress. I felt so bratty for not liking the dress she’d already bought for me, in full. I felt like getting another dress would be so unfair to her.
I spent months with nightmares about the dress and conflicted feelings about whether or not to look for a new dress. I had my dress altered and found different size heels to accomodate the length. I tried everything but I couldn’t even bring myself to look at anything wedding dress related because I was so upset about my gown.
And then, at the last fitting I went to, out of no where, my anxiety wasn’t there anymore. And it was because there really wasn’t anything wrong with my dress. It was just me. Doubting myself. Second guessing myself. The dress was beautiful. I didn’t need to compare it to other dresses because my dress was… well, my dress. And this is the dress I will wear on 5/29/11, without panic or fear but with confidence and excitement.
I hope that this helps some of you having dress regret. I really think it’s very common and has less to do with your dress and more to do with overall panic that everything on your wedding day will be perfection. And, ladies, the truth is – it will be. It’s your dress and your wedding. Try to keep it all in perspective!