Overcome your dress regret? Lets share stories to help other bees…

posted 8 years ago in Dress
  • poll: After having wedding dress regret, I...
    went and tried on 500 more dresses to help confirm I made the right decision, which I did. : (13 votes)
    8 %
    bought a new dress and felt glad I did. : (54 votes)
    33 %
    bought a new dress only to end up wearing the dress I originally bought. : (5 votes)
    3 %
    waited for the regret to pass, which thankfully, it did. : (83 votes)
    50 %
    felt sad about my dress right through my wedding day and beyond. : (10 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1370 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I’m a two dress bride. When I ordered my second dress, I was very torn between two dresses and I thought I made the wrong decision, again. I couldn’t get the 2nd pick dress out of my mind until my dress came in. When I tried my dress on in my size, I knew she was perfect.

    Post # 4
    Member
    192 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I’m a 2 dress bride, but I’m still unsure of which one I’ll wear on the big day.

    I went to DB in late January on a whim (no appointment, nothing) to look with my mom. My wedding isn’t until next March, but I figured I’d just start looking. I’ve always known the style I want (ballgown with some beading) and, after I told the consultant that, she said they had a clearance dress that would be perfect for me.

    She showed it to me and I loved it right away! I tried on a few others, but that one was definitely it. When I put it on, all the other people in the store stopped and told me how perfect it was for me. It was an amazing price ($350) and fit perfectly. I was sure it was too early, but my mom (who never spends money on anything!) said I should buy it because of the price. The only thing I didn’t like about it was that it had a plain train- no beading, buttons, nothing!

    Skip to earlier this month when I went with a friend to the Running of the Brides. We were going to look for her, NOT me! After looking and trying, we didn’t see much for her, but we scanned the racks one last time just to be sure. Then, I saw it. My dream dress! It was a gorgeous ballgown with beading on the bodice AND on the train! It was in her size (MUCH smaller than mine) so I had her try it, thinking maybe she’d love it as much as I did. She didn’t. So I decided I HAD to try it, just to see. Of course I couldn’t take it off… I wasn’t going to get it, since it was 4 sizes too small, until I talked to a tailor who said he could easily put a corset back in if I lost a little weight.

    So here I am, a 2 dress bride. I ADORE my second dress and am working my butt off for the next year to lose the 80ish pounds I need to fit into it. Otherwise, my first dress is still gorgeous. I’m crazy, I know…

    Post # 5
    Member
    74 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    @sarindipity: That dress is beautiful!! Don’t regret it! I’m sure you will look fab!

    Post # 6
    Member
    3564 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    My story is similar to yours…I purchased my dress in October 2009, and by December 2009, I was having MAJOR doubts. I went on two other dress searches, and didn’t really find anything I liked better, but I just wasn’t happy with my dress. I felt helpless, because I didn’t want to spend more money on another dress (or offend my mom, who had bought my dress for me). So I decided I would just have to deal with it. And when I arrived for my first fitting, I liked my dress! I didn’t LOVE it–I wasn’t head over heels, crying for joy about it, but I liked it. And on my wedding day, I felt BEAUTIFUL. So in the end, it all worked out. And it didn’t hurt that my Darling Husband LOVED my dress–he was head over heels for it enough for both of us!

    Post # 7
    Member
    1115 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    When I first got engaged I started googling dresses and found THE ONE. (Michelle Roth Maya.) A bunch of serendipitious things happened that made me sure it was my dress. It was the only one I ever tried on and I paid in full that day.

    We ended up having to postpone our wedding plans because of a layoff. So I had almost 2 years from when I first saw the dress to when we actually got married.

    Of course, during those two years I was obsessed with all those damn wedding blogs. DRESS OVERLOAD. I started 2nd guessing my decision because I kept seeing so many other beautiful dresses.

    About 3 months before my wedding, I found another dress that definitely could have been THE ONE if I didn’t already have my dress. I briefly considered getting it and selling the Maya.

    But I decided that it would be ridiculous to spend the extra money and my original dress was better for our venue (which was on a pier…a long dress would have been too formal and gotten mangled. Maya is tea length.)

    By the time I had my final fitting, I realized that it was still truly the dress for me.

    Once you have your dress, stop looking at dresses online! (Easier said than done, I know.)

    Post # 9
    Member
    302 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I am a two dress bride unfortunately, but ultimately I am SO GLAD that I listened to my heart and followed through with embracing my dress regret feelings!

    I went through so many different emotions throughout the entire process, but I am SO SO SO happy that I was able to make the right choice!

    My entire story was documented here on the weddingbee boards..you all were so helpful! But yes, just click my username and voila – my emotional roller coaster at your fingertips!

    πŸ™‚ I’m so happy now though. LISTEN TO YOUR INSTINCTS. LISTEN TO YOUR HEART. IT’S OKAY.

    πŸ™‚

     

    Post # 10
    Member
    2775 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    @hilsy85: I loved your dress!

    Post # 11
    Member
    6998 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    i had terrible dress regret – i went to 3 different bridal salons and probably tried on a total of 20 or so dresses. I found one that i really liked at Group USA but decided i wanted to look around some more so i went to a local bridal salon and they had a Mori Lee that i fell in love with – being the indecisive person that i am i decided to try the 1st dress on again and bought it that night because i liked it enough and the ladies at the bridal salon with the mori lee scared me with their timeframes on ordering so i jumped the gun and bought the dress from group usa when i went and tried it on the second time.

    I bougt it in October for a February wedding. when it arrived, it was too big (and the sample in the store was too big) so i just couldnt get a feel for what it really looked like and i started freaking. i hated my dress, what the heck did i do buying this thing?i hoped alterations would help ease my mind on my terrible dress decision but it didnt, i got it back from alterations and i still just didnt like it…i think i was just overevaluating myself in it and spending too much time on the bee looking at such beautiful dresses! haha.

    long story short i cried and whined about my dress for months. even a few weeks leading up to the wedding i was dreading it. i mean obviously i liked it enough to buy it , what changed? well nothing…when i put my dress on that day with my hair and makeup done, my veil and jewlery on i felt amazing, i ended up so happy with the dress i bought. I got tons of compliments on it and i felt confident and beautiful in my regretful dress!

    just try and remember why you bought it in the first place, there must have been something about it that caught your eye…

    me in my dress πŸ™‚

    Post # 13
    Member
    6998 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    @sarindipity: its scary how similar our stories are! haha – i was the same way, i could have swung the money for another dress but i didnt want to be selfish and just disregard the dress my mother bought for me, that i willingly chose. I’m so glad you arent feeling the anxiety anymore, and trust me when you are all done up that day and getting ready before you walk down the aisle you will be so happy with your choice. i think just the excitement and happiness shines through your whole body and you will rock it like no other bride could. i cant wait to see your wedding pics! i will be stalking you after your big day. Congrats on overcoming the regret, its a difficult thing to just come to terms with, but we did it!

    that dress is absolutely breathtaking btw!

    Post # 14
    Member
    3564 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    @sailor: Aw thank you! At the end of the day, so did I! πŸ™‚

    Post # 15
    Member
    141 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I bought my dress online because it was the perfect style and perfect price but, before that, I never even tried a dress on. I guess it was just really hard for me to believe that I could find the perfect dress without trying any on so I went ahead and tried another one on in a store. Of course, I also liked the first dress I tried on in a store (which happened to be even less expensive) so I bought that as well. After doing some more thinking, I realized my first choice was the perfect one and returned the second dress.

    Post # 16
    Member
    225 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Ok here it goes…

    I ordered my dress in the first store, the first time I went to try on dresses. My mom was with me and we had a very good time.

    A few weeks after, I found the Bee and looked at all these beautiful dresses and started to doubt mine. It also didn’t help that people here said that DB was a bad store with poor quality dresses πŸ™ You see, I’m not from here and I had no idea where to go dress shopping, I just saw the DB commercials and thought it was a good idea to go look.

    I started wondering if I had made the right decision, if my dress was too cheap, if it had a good quality. I only had a cellphone picture of me in my dress and I barely remembered how the fabric felt (I remembered it was very soft). Looking at all the pretty dresses here, made me sad because my dress wasn’t a Maggie, Lazaro, Enzoani, etc. Mine was DB and I kept thinking that if I had known more about wedding dresses, I wouldn’t have bought it :-/ Maybe I hadn’t tried enough dresses.

    Because of all this, I went to several other stores to try on more dresses. I told to myself that if I found another dress that I loved more and wasn’t super expensive, I would buy it and try to sell the one I had ordered. So I tried on many, many dresses, all types of shapes and designers. I would compare every dress with my DB dress and there was nothing that fit me better, nothing that could compare to how I loved my original dress.

    Then, my dress finally came in and when I tried it on, I fell in love with it all over again. It was soft and beautiful, the best dress for me. My dress.

    Later, I decided I wanted to accessorize it differently and add a beaded sash and that made me love it even more πŸ˜€ In case you want to check it out:

    http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/should-i-change-my-dress-a-little-pic-heavy-p

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