- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
So my wedding is coming up in about 2 weeks and a few days and everything was finally starting to fall in to place. The area that I was most nervous about of course was dealing with my bridesmaids. I have been nothing but polite and even offered to pay for their dresses if they cannot afford it. Thankfully for me, I only had to pay for one of their dresses everyone else got their own.
Well now I finally found us a hairdresser who was priced very reasonably and I myself am doing this loose princess style that I found online and loved. I got everything set up and told my bridesmaids that if they pick a hairstyle let me know and we can arrange a possible trial to see how it will look on them and how much it would cost. Already their hair is going to be more expensive than my own which makes me a little uneasy because recently my fiances father lost his job and we are swamped with all the bills 2 weeks before our wedding. It’s hurting us hard and when we went to apply for a loan we didn’t get even close to the amount that we wanted, so we are in crunch time.
My delemma worsened when a few of my bridesmaids started coming back to me with the exact wedding hair style as me! It felt awkward for me at first because there are so many hairstyles out there… I didn’t think so many would go for it. Well i tried hinting at it to be nice and joking saying how its exactly like mine and showing them pictures of it. None of them seem to get the point. In fact, a few went ahead and said ‘See that is exactly what I want’. Now.. I do not want to be rude, and if I was just another bridesmaid I would let it pass but now it got me all worked up. On top of that, my fiance thinks its amusing and that it does not matter because we are two different women so the hair would look different.
I do not agree. I am the bride, and I would like my hair to be different. They did not get the hints, which made me feel awkward, especially when they kept sending me the same hairstyle on a different woman so I stopped responding. I contacted my hair dresser and she suggested picking the hair styles for them. I know I promised them that they could pick it, but they aren’t getting the point. I am shy, so I have a hard time telling her no she cannot do it, but it’s coming down to the fact that I may need to. I hate to take away their freedom of choice. Was anyone else in this situation?