(Closed) Overemotional Mom? (Long w/ Summary)

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I dunno… I feel like perhaps she’s being overly sensitive?

If she didn’t want it to get back to your Fiance, I kind of feel like she shouldn’t have said that to you.

I’ve also never heard of a woman being angry that her husband was asked for the daughter’s hand in marriage and not her. (Though I’m sure it happens! My field of experience is admittedly rather limited.) I come from a very spiritual family as well, as well as being fairly traditional. Darling Husband asked my Dad for permission to ask me to marry him, not my mom. (Though he did have to call my mom for my ring size.)

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

@TaurianDoll:  Are you the only daughter? Maybe she’s just feeling really emotional lately because she’s afraid of ‘losing’ you.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Before you think anything, or judge your mom for thinking and feeling the way she does, first let them have their conversation tonight. This is between your mom and your Fiance. The fact that they’re meeting is a good sign, it will allow them to clear the air.

 

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@TaurianDoll:  This is REALLY hard to explain, because if you don’t have a daughter…you just don’t know the roiling of emotions that can course through you when they’re dating and thinking about settling down with a man.

I love my Punkin…LOVE HER…and I’m a self admitted, ferocious killer of a Momma Bear…I’ve seen em come and go with my Punkin, we’ve done the crying cause he just dumped her phone call at three in the morning and the I want you to meet this one e-mail and the god I’m sorry I didn’t know he was such an ass conversation in the bathroom…We’ve done it all, and the fact that I don’t have grey hair yet is a testament to my personal fortitude, because it’s SO HARD to be objective and logical when you’re dealing with the living personification of your heart, your soul and your life….and someone might hurt her.

It honestly make me an illogical mess sometimes, Mr. 99 too…but usually one of us is able to stay grounded while the other launches to the moon…

I know that this is hard, having been a daughter myself, but I swear, she loves and fears him at the same time…in her head she knows he’s a wonderful man and what she doesn’t know, she trusts, because you do…but sometimes a mother’s heart grips her so tightly, a knee jerk reaction can be hard to resist and she’s probably kicking herself for mucking it up the way she did…

Let this all work itself out, I promise it will be just fine….

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

@TaurianDoll:  I think it may just be that she loves you and she’s afraid of this new stage in your life. I know that DH’s mom got very very attached to him after we got engaged- he’s her only son and his older sister still lives at home, so she hadn’t ever had to deal with a child permanently leaving home before (even though Darling Husband was living at university by that point.)

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