(Closed) overestimated ring accident

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Is it wrong for me to be a little disappointed?

    no, I would be too

    yes, you sound selfish

    yes and no, it's unfortunate that he said 1 to 2 (i would think the same) but you should be happy

  • Post # 32
    502 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    What is the quality of 1 Ct that he chose for you?  Is possible that he picked a very high quality diamond i.e D or E, IF or VVS1, ideal or excellent cut?  That will be very very expensive diamond comparing to a bigger stone with less quality.  Before judging only the carat size, you should quality of the diamond first.  I told me Fiance that I prefer smaller diamond with a better quality (mean more sparkle).

    Post # 33
    2294 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Most people would be thrilled to receive a 1 ct ring. Is there really that much of a difference between 1 and 1.2 cts that warrants dissapointment, or am I just reading this wrong?

    Post # 34
    1417 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I think 1 carat is more than sufficient…

    Post # 35
    7941 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    Please correct me if I am wrong but are you really disappointed that your ring is “only” 1 carat and not 1.2? I feel as if I misunderstood something here.

    Post # 36
    358 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @Treejewel19:  +1

    I have a 1ct centre stone and I was MORE than thrilled. If you’re worried about what people think of the size of your centre stone over the joy of being proposed to, that’s a shame.

    There are MANY women, who would (1) LOVE a man (2) Be thrilled whatever type of ring he gives her.

    I would just count your self blessed and say sorry.

    Post # 37
    19 posts
    • Wedding: June 2012

    When my guy was planning on proposing, we looked at different rings. Solitares and composites. I told him that I would have been happy with either, but I preferred a solitare. There is such a huge difference in prices with rings, especially with the bigger you go.

    You have to understand that buying a ring is a huge step for a guy, because they want to get you something you will love, but also without going broke at the same time (which is why we looked at composites).

    I made it clear to him that any ring he picked out for me would be awesome, but that I also love solitares more, but I understood that he had a budget to go off of.

    If I had gotten the composite ring, would i have been upset? Maybe for like 3 seconds, but then would have loved it because he picked it out for me.

    Go talk with your guy. There is nothing you cant talk about. Explain to him that you were hoping for a larger size carat, but anything he got you is wonderful. And you have to mean it and not just say it.

    Fiance and I joke around saying that instead of an anniversary band he is going to upgrade my carat size on my ring (since I love the band so much), but the more I look at my ring, the less I want to mess with it, even if its just changing the diamond (what girl doesnt want a bigger carat :p )

    Post # 38
    389 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Honestly, different stone shapes have a tendency to look larger or smaller. If you’re really hoping for a big ring, i suggest trying on a few different shapes that are all a carat. 

    And you never have to tell anyone how big it is. I just say “My husband was so traditional, he picked it out and never told me any of the details, just that he loved me and wanted to spend his life with me!”

    Post # 39
    1935 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    If I heard 1-2 I would assume it was higher than 1 too.  Obviously it’s not the end of the world and I’m sure your ring will be beautiful.  I would feel a little disappointed but just for a little bit.  Once you have it I’m sure you won’t be concerned about the 1 vs. 1.2!

    Post # 40
    3615 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @nervouskitty:  that’s so selfish!  I have a 1ct ring and I LOVE it…my only request was that it was the shape I liked, and that it was a solitare…because the meaning behind it was the one diamond that he saved up for me as some sort of symbolic thing in my mind.

    Why are you so worried about the size of it? If you truly love him that wouldn’t matter.

    See below:

    Post # 41
    925 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Your engagement should be about marrying the man you love, not having a big rock on your finger. My ring is .8 carats center stone (1.2 tcw) and I wouldn’t have cared if it was smaller. Better to spend what he can afford and not start your marriage off broke because he got you a ring you’d have to pawn to get by. You should decide what you want more: the ring or the engagement.

    Post # 42
    618 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2004

    the carat weight isn’t always the most important factor. different shaped diamonds could be the same carat weight, but some are bigger or smaller than others. for example, a round 1 ct diamond could be 6.5 mm, while a 1 ct square diamond could be a little less than 5.5 mm. And the difference between 1 ct and 1.2 cts wouldn’t even be visible to the naked eye.

    Post # 43
    859 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    @Kay1126:  Your engagement should be about marrying the man you love, not having a big rock on your finger.

    I love you 🙂

    Post # 45
    759 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Honey, one carat or one tenth of a carat shouldn’t matter. There shouldn’t be an ounce of dissapointment when being proposed to. Even if it was a tin ring.

    The ring is a symbol of your love but why does that mean that it has to be so much money? Money is NOT a symbol of love, so the bigger the diamond does not mean the more the love.

    It’s the thought that is put into the ring that counts, and it seems like he’s really thought about it. If he folded up 3 1.000$  bills into a ring and said “Will you marry me?” I personally would be appalled. Shove money in my face thinking it will make me say yes?

    But if he bought me a sterling silver ring with my birthstone and something engraved in it (just using this as an example) I’d be jumping up and down for joy.


    I don’t know how to fix this other than continiously showing off the ring in front of him. Explain how you are sorry and still he wont believe it at first but if you show the ring off to everyone you meet, and he’s around, eventually he will get the hint that you do like your ring after all

    Post # 46
    649 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Yup, selfish….

    Before my Fiance proposed he was questioning me about erings for a “friend”….He mentioned a ring his friend was looking at that cost $8000…I said I would KILL him if he spent that on a ring…..but of course, HE was the one who bought it, not his friend….

    My ring is just over 1ct….good quality (I don’t remember all the specifics….) and sparkles like crazy….

    I love it, because it’s from HIM…..I also wear the hockey jersey he bought me frequently because it’s from HIM…..

    I would considering setting you priorities before you start planning a wedding….

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