- 9 years ago
- Wedding: November 2011
I’m on the fence on this one. On the one hand, I think 1 carat is plenty big enough, but I guess it depends on you, and your budget.
I love, LOVE my ring….and it wasn’t cheap. It’s slightly over 1 carat. However, my Fiance makes pretttty good money, and I also told him the first time he casually mentioned engagement rings that in this country (US), people will try to tell him to spend 2-3 months salary and absolutely didn’t want him spending that kind of money. 2-3 months of his salary even AFTER taxes would have meant I was walking around with 30,000 dollars on my hand, and I’m not even a “jewelry” person. I just didn’t want it.
I told him not to spend more than 1 months salary, but apparently the setting he picked was pricy, so over all, it WAS more than a month’s salary, but not two, so I don’t feel too bad about the price. He also bought the diamond online and got a great deal–had it set in a setting he picked out in person. I was thrilled to have this ring, and it’s probably the nicest Engagement Ring in my circle of friends/family and that was with him not spending the “typical” 2-3 months salary.
So, I don’t know your financial situation…or your fiance’s. If he makes over 200,000 a year, and both of you are fairly materialistic when it comes to other things (cars, clothes), and you feel he “cheaped out” on this one area, then I would say…maybe your feelings are justified. I might have been disappointed if my fiance was driving the newest bmw M3, but “only” spent $14,000 on my ring. But he’s a simple guy, who saves rather than spend, so I was thrilled that he bought what he did.
On the other hand, if you guys just talked about a 2 Carat ring without realizing that you’ll absolutely be dropped at least $25,000 on a decent quality stone. And you all don’t make that much money—then I’d say, you need to apologize profusely, have sex with him twice a day for the next week (heh), and cook him his favorite dinner. Because my least favorite thing about women are the type who feel they deserve more than what their fiance can realistically afford.
My two cents! =)