Post # 1
I walked into our sons’ preschool and overheard the ‘principal’ talking to another family. I pretty much heard the ‘principal’ praise their family and express disappointment with another family. She didn’t say our names, but the things she did say sounded as though we (FI & I), were the disappointments. 🙁 I don’t think the ‘principal’ knew I was there.
I couldn’t stop thinking about it. It’s been four hours later and I’m still affected by what I heard, and I don’t even know for sure what they were talking about! I know I should just let it go, but I just can’t help but feel hurt 🙁
ETA: Just had to get it out 🙂
Post # 3
Unless you KNOW they were talking about you, I wouldn’t let it bother you. Speculation can make things worse.
Post # 4
Can you give specifics on perhaps what was said, and why you think it was about you?
Post # 5
honestly you cant be certain if it was even about you. Most time people we hear talking it could definetly be about us, but quite often isnt. My husband as even thought i was talking about him to my mum on the phone (in the other room), when it was actually her brother (my uncle), that we were talking about.. he was acting really shitty after i got off the phone and then finally after an hour of me asking what wa wrong said that it really hurts his feelings when i talk about him… so after explaining the whole conversation to him he realised that i wasnt infact talking about him, nor do i, (except now in this situation.. :/) and that its so easy to get the wrong idea when you dont know the exact story. It could have been a number of peope that the principal was talking about. However that saiid, its really bad form and not at all professional to be discussing other families to people who are not staff. BUT I would bet that it wasnt about you.
Also stop letting this bother you. F*** the principal if he is talking about people like this!! dont let him live rent free in your head. And honestly a person who talks to others like his is not to be trusted or to be worried about. ergh.. it really annoys me when people of authority think they divulge this sort of information to others.
Post # 6
I don’t feel it’s right for school officials to ever put down a family. That just drives me crazy! I got a call from my sons principal the other day and he praised my son for handling a fight well when another kid hit him in the face with a book and my son didn’t hit back he just went to a teacher. He told me all the details and that my son wasn’t hurt and that in fact he talked to the child later and said he could be his friend. His principal felt I needed to know the situation before my son came home and told me everything. That was okay and I was happy he called AND THEN he started talking about the other child and his family. No, not okay I don’t need to hear about the other child… kids fight, my sons fine I’m not a gossip and I have no place to judge anyone else.
I don’t know if they were actually talking about you but I hope not. I feel bad for people who have to deal with this even the people who he was talking to about the other people because that’s not comfortable either… if they talk with you they’ll talk about you right?
Post # 7
@Pinksapphire: We have weekly meetings/classes that at least ONE member of every family needs to attend. My Fiance hasn’t gone to a meeting/class since the first month that our child was at this school. This is also our sons’ second year. He does however, do other things for the school (construction, cleaning, solicits donations). What I overheard was, “…he hasn’t made any effort to come to class and this is their second year. It’s ridiculous.” Ugh. There are only about eight other families on their second year, and I’ve seen the fathers at meetings. So I think it was kind of obvious that she was talking about us.
Even if thats the case, she shouldn’t be discussing it with other families. Right?!
@mrsrangrang: Thank you, that last paragraph made me laugh!
Post # 8
@HappilyEverAfter54: Yeah, I would be very uncomfortable if I were in the shoes of the other family.
What a good son of yours 🙂
Post # 9
“…he hasn’t made any effort to come to class and this is their second year. It’s ridiculous.””…he hasn’t made any effort to come to class and this is their second year. It’s ridiculous.”
Seriously F*** the principal. i think there is only two options.
1) Go and front the principal, tell him that you heard him and then tread on eggshells fro the rest of the time you are at that school
2)Ignor him, dont ever let it bother you and know that while your Fi cant make it you do and i think that is more important to have one parent there. Honestly is your child missing out because your Fi cant make it? Im sure you fill him in onall the details. Plus your Fi does other crap for the school which im sure plenty of others dont.
Ergh.. i actually work in a school and hate this type of behaviour. (the principals), to much ego and all! think they can discuss anything with anyone..
Post # 10
@ohulani: Yeah he is, he makes me proud. Every once in a while I feel like I’m doing everything right lol.
I also wanted to say I worked in a preschool for 4 years and the head coordinator ALWAYS talked bad about everyone, the staff, the parents, the kids! No matter who she was talking to she’d find someone else to talk about and put down. So that principal likely talks about everyone if they so openly talk about anyone you know what I mean? I would just let it roll off my back and remember that it’s not you they are targeting even if they were talking about you at the time. I caught my old boss talking about me more than once and I knew it so I walked right in and made everyone feel uncomfortable LOL.