- 5 years ago
Oh, I am going to murder one of my girlfriends! (I say this in jest… sort of ) Though I love her, she is one of those people who has a very limited social filter. She tends to just say what she thinks, whatever she thinks, whenever she thinks them. Well, for the past few days she has been dog-sitting for my SO who has been out of town, and tonight he went to pick his dog up. This is significant in that this is the first time that my SO has talked with her outside of my presence. Well, much to my embarrassment he reported that, while he is not sure how the subject came up, she apparently only somewhat jokingly told him, “You shouldn’t propose this summer, since I will be away on summer vacation and won’t be there to celebrate with you and MountainWolf. No, you should propose in the spring or wait until the fall when we’re all at school!” Now this is a running joke between my girlfriends and myself, and I don’t mind her giving my SO a little prodding. I think he could use it every once and awhile But the real kicker was apparently when she revealed to my SO, “No, you better make it the spring. MoutainWolf is getting REAL eager for a ring on her finger!” I don’t remember how exactly he told me she said it, but I think the words “desperate to get engaged” were in there as well.
My SO just laughed as he told me this. He didn’t feel pressured, and it definitely didn’t scare him off. No, he found it very funny, because he knows just how embarrassed I get at my own overly girly mushiness and he likes to use it as a little fun torment against me. So I am not really worried about it at all on that end.
However, my friend’s lack of social filter has made me question just how much I can confide in my girlfriends! In revealing that I am “REAL eager for a ring on my finger, I feel like she seriously violated the Girlfriend Code in some way! Taking things I have told her in confidence and sharing them with my SO! I am think that I may have to institute the Shut-It-Up Pact with her as well if I don’t want my mushy and dreamy engagement talk to leak back to my SO somehow!
Anyone else experience something like this? Friends who were either overly helpful or who just couldn’t keep quiet?