Overly jealous or justified?

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 31
574 posts
Busy bee

I think this says more about your own insecurities than anything. 

Ok, maybe that shouldn’t have been said in front of you…but you’re still allowed to find others hot when you have a partner. I tell my SO that I’m love with the spinning instructor at the gym we go to. He doesn’t care at all. We went for dinner with a few other couples recently and one of the men said ‘have you seen Jenny from school lately? She’s much more attractive now’….this resulted in everyone (girls included) asking to see her Facebook profile and all agreeing. Most of us saying ‘wow, look at her legs. I would kill for those legs’.

I have to say, I’d find it really bizarre if I said to one of my friends ‘do you think that guy is he hot?’ and she replied ‘not as hot as my SO, no one is as hot as him’….. You can admire someone else’s beauty without questioning your own

Post # 32
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mindzoo :  Hi bee I know how you feel recently I went boot shopping with my boyfriend and when we got home he had the balls to ask me if the cashier thought he was cute and that he thought she cute. I was livid I couldnt believe that he would ask me this his girlfriend of 2 1/2 years. We talked about and he knew what he said was wrong but I still remember it. Its like on re play in my head.

Post # 33
322 posts
Helper bee

I guess I’m in the minority here. I’m a San Diego average- fit body, ok face. My husband’s last ex was a ballerina princess. She was gorgeous. We all think it, know it, his friend had mentioned it one time (in context). We have a great relationship. And because of our relationship, the comments don’t bother me. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

I don’t think the friend’s comments about the ex are rude. What is rude is if they kept doing after finding out how you feel about it. It’s ok to be bothered by something that is said. It’s not ok to expect people to know what will bother you (within reason) on the first go around. It’s not ok to repeat behavior if it’s known that the behavior bothers you.

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